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    cm92701cm92701
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    edited December 2011
    Nope I'm here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    mc108mc108
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    edited December 2011
    YAY!I'm trying to get out of my bad mood....idk what the deal it today!
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    cm92701cm92701
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    edited December 2011
    LOL! Meh it happens! I woke up pissed off at FI, cuz I had a dream that he was being mean to me so I broke it off with him.  He's like how can you be mad at me about something I did in my dream... haha I'm so dramatic sometimes.
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    cm92701cm92701
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    edited December 2011
    O you should play Sorority Life on FB.  It'll cheer you up and its fun!!!
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    mc108mc108
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    edited December 2011
    me too LOL :)I think I hurt FI's feelings last night...and its been bugging me......We were talking about stuff and I mentioned how it kinda sucks sometimes because 2 years ago we were on top of the world, we had it together and now I feel like he is still doing great but here's me with nothing going on to move us forward, ya know? I mean yeah I now have a job, but I still have almost 10,000 in debt to my school that has to be paid off before I can even finish....well anyway, when I said that he was just like "I can't believe you think we aren't on top anymore" I felt really bad just the way he said it....and like it sound dumb but it really sucks when all your friends are buying houses, and having babies, being grown ups and you still live at home.....I mean I know getting married is grown up but I guess I just want it all....lol sorry...
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    cm92701cm92701
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    edited December 2011
    I definitely feel the same way sometimes, where I want to be in the position to own my own home, have a new car, and have my bebe's.  But the way I look at it that's why I work so hard now is to have something to work towards and set my goals too.  And as long as FI and I are on the same page to want all those things, I feel okay with things taking their course.  I still live at home too and will be after our wedding.  It's what my parents want because they want us to save money to buy our own home and have all these great things.  Overall I just feel so happy and blessed that I have the family and FI that I have.  I just remind myself of that when I'm feeling like all these things that we want are so 'far fetched'.  I would just talk to your FI and smooth things over, let him know why you're feeling that way and you didn't mean to hurt his feelings.  Than all will be good.  He loves you and you love him. :D HTH... Sorry I wrote a page full. :\
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    mc108mc108
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks a lot! it helps to have someone who understands :)I'll talk to him tonight :)
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    SweetpeaRN12SweetpeaRN12
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    edited December 2011
    I feel the EXACT same way.  Even though I just graduated and should have this great job, I feel like no one will ever hire me with no experience.  Sure I'm engaged, but FI lives 1200 miles away.  I don't know about your friends and their situations, but I just tell myself that yeah, they may have a house and kids, but they are going to struggle because they jumped into all this stuff without a strong foundation under them.  CM is right, we are lucky to have supportive parents that we can live with while we build our lives.  But I totally understand how you feel!  What did you go to school for that cost so much?!
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    cm92701cm92701
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    edited December 2011
    No problemo!!! Glad to help. Sometimes I feel like a made huge mistake not finishing college when I was supposed to, and making the decisions that I did.  But just have to keep trekking forward, no way I could go back and do it over anywho...
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    amberg321amberg321
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    edited December 2011
    I lived at home before we bought our house. I would get sooo bummed out all the time too. It was hard to go from an awesome job and cute apt on the beach in Boston to living in my moms tiny extra bedroom. I would not have been able to have a nice wedding and buy a house if it werent for that though.
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    mc108mc108
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    edited December 2011
    I'm going to school to be a teacher....my financial aid got screwed up for a while and no one told me until it was too late. It was either pay this money now or we'll stop your classes. Since I had no job I couldn't get a loan.... It's true I am lucky...and I look at some of the marriages around me and it does remind me how lucky I am with FI :)But I feel that way too, like I wish I could take some decisions I've made back....but I guess you just have to have faith sometimes and know that everything happens for a reason...
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    mc108mc108
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for the smile SD- you're awesome! You're right Amber, if we werent doing this now a lot of things for later wouldnt be possible! And that's exacty right, it is so hard to go from having my own place to living in my parents spare room...
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    SandraRay2008SandraRay2008 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would just talk to your FI MC sometimes when we are down in the dumps we say things that dont come out the nicest. Im sure he will understand. :)
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    cm92701cm92701
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    edited December 2011
    Sweetpea-  I definitely think its important to take the time to build a very strong foundation.  And the more you go through w/ your FI the stronger your relationship becomes.  SD-  hahahaha FI didn't even mention that. I guess I slipped right by him.  LOL. And yes Sorority Life is addicting.  I'm on level 11 on my 2nd day. :D Can I have cake too?????
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    hischiquita!hischiquita! member
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    edited December 2011
    I feel the same way MC. All my friends are getting brand new cars, new homes all these material items, but in the end I just think about how lucky FI and I are to have each other and trully be happy. These friends with the "perfect" life have super sucky relationships that they wont get out of because of the financial. I am just glad that even though we dont have all these grand possessions that they have, our relationship more than makes up for it. We're happy even without all the material things.
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    mc108mc108
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    edited December 2011
    You're definitely right HC :)
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    SandraRay2008SandraRay2008 member
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    edited December 2011
    SD if I say Im sad will you offer me a cake and ice cream and wine!?!?!??! :)
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    sdkissezsdkissez member
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    edited December 2011
    Ok, I just read the rest of the posts on here. I want to say something, so I hope you don't mind me posting about this.Everyone comes into their own at different points and for different reasons. You all are still very young and try not to think about what other people may have that you don't. You don't always know their situation, and some people are good at "hiding" what their life is really like.  I'm 31 years old and I'm just now having my first baby, and got married when I was 30.  A lot of my friends had babies young, got married young, etc.....  But, I had a different plan for myself.  And, it worked for me.  =)  You all have great men in your life who support and love you no matter what, and that's more special and important than material things. I know it's hard to watch people have cetain things that you may want. I started to question at one point if I would ever find "the one" since a lot of my friends were married with children. But, not all of them were happy.  I realized that I would never compromise. I owned my first home when I was 20, with my parents help, but I didn't have other things that I wanted in my life. But, it all works out in the end.  I'm happy that I waited longer to achieve other things in life.  I know this is long and I'm sure it may not help out. But, I think you ladies have the most special thing in life and that is love, supportive parents, and great friends.  Plus, you have your knottie friends who will always be here for you.  These things are harder to come by, hold onto, but are the most rewarding things in life.  =)
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    sdkissezsdkissez member
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    edited December 2011
    I love to bake girls! I will bake for all of you and then run on the treadmill next to you all the next day so we can work off our cake and ice cream. Ok, I'll walk, and watch you all run since I can't exactly run right now. lol!Speaking of cake, I just designed and ordered the cake for my baby shower!  It's going to be sooooo awesome looking and it's red velvet..yummy!
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    mrs.payne2010mrs.payne2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    girl, debt is going to be there for the rest of your life so the way i see it is why stress about it....and the way your life is today reflects on the future so you may not have all you want today but if you just be patient and take it day by day then you watch some really great things are going to come. everything happens for a reason!what always makes me feel better is to just think of all the great things in my life instead of thinking about the not so great.
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    SandraRay2008SandraRay2008 member
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    edited December 2011
    SD your so inspirational I think we need to hang out more often!
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    SweetpeaRN12SweetpeaRN12
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    edited December 2011
    Aw SD you made me tear :')
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    mc108mc108
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    edited December 2011
    Me too! You guys are so awesome! Thanks for making me feel better, like Mrs. P said we should focus on the good things instead of the bad!  
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    breleficentbreleficent
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    edited December 2011
    mc- I totally feel the same way sometimes. People my age have their Master's by now and some are half way done with their PhDs. They are married, have their own houses, nice cars, etc. Here I am still living at home with mom and dad at the age of 26 and still working to get my Bachelor's. I totally feel you! sd- Thanks for that. Sometimes I need to hear that again. It is all so very true. One of my favorite poems (if you can call it a poem) says, "If you compare yourself to others, you may become bitter and vain, for always, there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievments as well as your plans. Keep interest in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time."  Ohhhh, so true, so true.

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    mc108mc108
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    edited December 2011
    OMG Bre that's awesome, I'm totally printing that out and taping it to my mirror! Thanks :) Oh and Bre, I happen to look up to you a lot! You work so hard and you know what you want. It seems like you have it all together, maybe right now you don't have everything you want but I know that you will! :)
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    sdkissezsdkissez member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with Christine, Bre.  That was a great quote.  I'm going to make a poster of that saying, laminate it, and hang it in my classroom!
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    breleficentbreleficent
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    edited December 2011
    Well thank you very much Christine =) You made me blush. sd- Here is the complete poem so you can cite the title and author. http://www.fleurdelis.com/desiderata.htm

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