I want to kill him...

curlyjennifer

i swear i want to kill DH lately...and he wants to do the same to me!!! we are in the biggest funk....everything gets on each other nerves, what we do, say, dont do, dont say, cough too much, eat all the ice cream, doesnt say thank you for washing something that they didnt even use, ehhhhhhhh....i went to Ross the other day, and walked around the store like a crazy person, saying "shut the Fock up"...lol over and over again...and laughed about it!!! i would never say that to DH EVER...but it felt so good to say it out loud!!! :sigh: we talk and talk and talk...so we are on the same page about the issues and whats going on which is good...but i just want to be normal again...DH says its probably the weather and the new house money/remodeling issues/concerns....i dont know...i told DH we are our worst critics and enemies right now...sigh...ok now i can breathe! lol

curlyjennifer

side note: i love my DH...i just thought we had already adjusted to each other...or the honeymoon would last longer! lol maybe after the house, gets going it will be better:/ i dont know but i'm tired of biting my lip, watching what and how i say things, and hearing how i'm not doing something enough or right...and vice versa with me harping on him...

Kasi80

It's likely the stress of it all.  You do talk about it so that's a good step to take.  Continue to talk things out so you can whittle down to the reason you two are frustrated with each other.

amberg321

Maybe you need to spend less time together. What about you doing something with your girlfriends for a day or a weekend? Sometimes just a little bit of time apart helps you appreciate each other again. When I am frustrated with DH I go shopping for the day or I tell him to go golf with his buddies and we always feel better afterwards. Oh and make up sex helps too

curlyjennifer

i think its money too...i make waaay more, and he is not satisfied with his salary...so there are things i ask him about, when he needs money, which i know i shouldnt but i cant help it....he gives me everything he can, and i do too....but i'm working 2 jobs...when we fight i tell him to get another too:/ i know, but i cant stand him complaining about money and not doing anything about it...or get a damn raise or go back to school...i think i'm happy with my life and our blessings...were he feels we are just starting and have waaay more to acheive and get. which sucks cause i try to make him happy, and lose cause he wants  to make himself happy...but hasnt stopped to prioritize his goals....blah, blah, blah...i hate being a fixer, cause it can be exhausting...

curlyjennifer

oh and we do have make up $ex, but its hard when your mad every other comment...its getting better but these past 2 weeks have been crazy...

sv4338

Ok so Im gonna be the bad one and ask cuz I think I read this wrong but do u mean he will ask u for mone cuz you have more to spend so you ask him WHY?If so yeah you shouldnt do that cuz that will make a whole lot of problemsI think you guys are just really stressed with the new house and the new roomates and even thought you love your SD it is alot to get use to when her mom is a psychopath (sp?)We only argue about $ I spend to much everything is an emergency to me so I know Im the problem hehehebut hey he knew this coming into the marriageI am working on it and I have gotten soooo much better you should keep talking things thru like you have been BUT the most important thing you have to remember is that you dont have to win every arguement sometimes you just gotta suck it up and let it go :0)

breleficent

Ah, money. The root of all evil.