Hello everyone!
My fiance and I will be 41 when we wed next year in St. Thomas. This is a first marriage for the both of us. Both of our fathers are deceased.
We're excited but I'm also a bit overwhelmed. I'm one of these gals that was ALWAYS the voice of calm for other brides but now that I'm planning my own wedding - it's like YIKES!
Forgive me while I vent a bit!
My future MIL is kinda acting out. She keeps proclaiming that she's not planning to come to the wedding. I've handled her as delicately as possible but it's starting to bother me that she's angling for attention. Some of her issues rests in the fact that I would not let her take the wedding over.
My mother, on the other hand, is lamenting that she can't help pay for the wedding. My mom is retired and 72 years old. We never placed the expectation on her to pay for anything. But she's singing the blues about not being able to contribute financially and honestly, I don't have the head space to manage her emotions regarding this.
We have people trying to invite themselves to the wedding and other who have hurt feelings because we can afford to accomodate everyone. If we decided to have the wedding at home, the attendees would easily surpass 400. So we opted for a small gathering for the wedding and a large party when we return home.
On top of these issues, the wedding location has been deflagged by Wyndham effective last week. And given that they have not been that responsive to me, I'm feeling like the wedding location may have to be moved. The drag of this is that we may be out $500 if we elect to not have the wedding at the now Sugar Bay Resort.
We're meeting with the Marriott and a local wedding planner next week while we in St. Thomas. I was really hoping that this trip could be a little more relaxing.
Have any other brides out there handled destination wedding woes? If so, please provide me some suggestions and feedback
Thanks!