This is not a post about any specific incident, thread, or individual on another board or on this board. It is a general comment on the zeitgeist.
There are a couple of things that make my hair stand on end when I read them. One is a type of post I would call the "tradition enforcer". This person claims to have direct information from some arbiter of all wedding knowledge, and insists that such-and-so must be done without deviation as it has always been done and ever shall be done thus. The number of things I think are inviolate I could probably count on one hand, with some fingers left over. And the remainder I could probably be talked out of. It bugs me that these self-appointed enforcers intimidate young brides who probably don't have the confidence to say...yeah, but in my financial/family/location/deployment/whatever situation, that's not right.... Seriously: who died and left them in charge of all wedding deportment??
Faux-tradition. This is all the foofaraw that has developed around weddings that are absolutely nouveau silliness--and entirely optional, which we've covered more than once here. They are fine if you want them. But they are optional and flexible. But when the enforcers start making demands around this stuff...gaaaaack....my blood pressure goes way up.
What I like about this board is that we've been around the block. We know that there are all sorts of ways to assemble this day (or trip, or whatever). Long dress/short dress, groom/bride, wedding party/no wp, diamond/no diamond, designer/not designer, white dress/navy dress, flowers/no flowers, veil/no veil, rehearsal/no rehearsal, church/diner, dancing/no dancing, bowling....(ok, that's just me)...it's all good here. There are opinions, but no demands.
You guys rock.