I was just reminiscing with my MOH about this time last year...
We had been together for over two years and still no "let's get married." I realize I am the "older" June bride here, but when you are in your 40's and have already been married before, you know what you want and know what you're up against. I knew I wanted him forever and I knew he wanted me. (We never lived together.)
So after several "discussions" about the subject (For those of you that have been here, with either your H or prior, you know the drill: You think he's on board and the proposal is coming and then something is said or happens that makes you realize he is so not there.) I was a big girl and literally said, either we do or I don't do this anymore. Well, he didn't and I walked.
I have never cried so much in my life.
I had ice packs on my eyes every chance I could get. I had to close the door to my office so I didn't make a fool of myself at work - I had to work.
After a month I assumed we were done - who wouldn't. I called up the Director at It's Just Lunch and let her know I was back and to set me up on matches again. Each match just made me realize how much I loved Vic. I was so depressed and sad.
After 2 months, Vic called me and I didn't answer - how childish now - but I wanted him to leave a message so I could hear his voice. I had his 5 disc CD drive for his car and he wanted it back. I emailed him - because I was afraid I'd start crying on the phone - that I had it and for him to let me know when I could drop it off WHEN HE WASN'T THERE.
Well I went to drop it off at his house and he was there. I lost it. I was all dressed up from work and mascara flowing down my face...ugh.
He said he wanted to talk with me face-to-face and knew this was the only way I'd agree. I still held my ground - no Christine without being your wife. He went to his Pastor and talked with him about us to his Pastor (who ended up marrying us) told him at the end, "Vic, I don't know why she doesn't have your ring on her finger."
He bought the ring and it took 2 weeks before he could get me alone to propose. He'd invite me out to dinner and I'd rather eat at home. So even with my youngest at home (with her BF) he proposed (had to ask them to go into her room)
So that was why I was asking...
So glad to be here now! Happy ending.
Going on honeymoon on Friday! Yeah!