Okay, this might turn out to be long. I am trying to put things into perspective but need to "talk" it out as well as get feedback.
Before I met my wonderful FI, I was in a relationship w/a guy aka Bozo-Brain (BB) for over 4 years. Long story short; he talked about our future together but then would freak out and run and hide. Took me on a romantic date at X-Mas time then dumped me at dinner (but gave me my present, then came by the house to give me another one a few days later). I finally let go completely, he didn't take it well (don't know, don't care what he was thinking) and moved on with my life.
BB and I have both volunteered for years with the same organizations so I would see him around sometimes, never engaged in conversation, but was polite. When he dumped me he told me that it was because he realized he can't handle relationships and would never be in one again. You see where this is going...he has started dating.
I don't care that he's dating, I care that he lied to me; but then again I shouldn't be surprised as he lied and cheated during our time. So why am I even thinking about this? The breakup happened over 2 years ago. Yes, I did think my future would be with him, but thank God it's not!
Is this a normal reaction to finding out he's moved on? I'm jsut worried if I see them together while volunteering I'll want to shove him in the water (we volunteer w/tall ships). As I said, I would not trade my life w/my FI for anything, but I'm really struggling with my emotions right now (doesn't help I've been sick for months and am getting worse).
Any comments, words of wisdom, etc would be apprciated!