I also posted this on the Chit Chat board.
I'll be 40 by the time I get married for the first time and I have no kids, just two doggies. My fiance has one 13 year old son who will be 14 next month. Obviously, I'm going to become this kid's stepmom soon.
Here's the background: when my fiance and his ex separated several years ago, the son lived with his mom and when they divorced, he stayed with his mom. My fiance would see him as much as possible. They lived 4 hours apart. Well last year when the son turned 13, he chose to live with his dad, so last summer, he moved in with my fiance.
And the situation is this.....the kid never does anything on the weekends with friends, never has anyone over, never goes to anyone's house, nothing. The only time he's with other people his age is school and boy scout functions. And, he won't go to his own Sunday School class. He goes with my fiance to his. But the thing that's driving me crazy is how clingy he is to my fiance. He literally hangs on him and seems like he has to always be touching or hugging him in some sort of fashion. Recently (within the past month or so) he will sit next to my fiance on the couch at my apartment and I sit on the loveseat. My fiance has to ask him to move to the loveseat so I can sit next to him.
I brought up his clinginess last week to my fiance. He said he was like that at home too. Said he's been that way since he moved in with him last summer and that he's that way because he didn't live with him for those 4 years during the separation/divorce.
Am I overreacting? What do I do? I just feel like it's a touchy subject because my fiance now wants to seek full custody of him. But he's so emotionally immature for his age.
Help!