Touchy Subject..

strwberry_e

Ok, we have about five bridesmaids and a maid of honor all whom we love so much... my issue is when i asked everyone to be in our wedding we all agreed that i would look at the dresses that I liked then show them and get their approval. Well, I have done just that, they loved the dresses I have picked out. One of my cousins who is one of the bridesmaids decided to go out and get a HUGE tattoo coming from mid shoulder down to her breast! It is as big as a 8x10 picture!! Ok, I am all about doing whatever you want with your body, but I do not know how to tell her that she is going to have to cover that up. We are getting married in a catholic church and they were a little on edge because the dresses are strapless as it is. How am I supposed to tell her to cover this up without her getting offended. I don't think there is anything wrong with tattoos at all, I have one, some of the other girls have some, but for the love of everything Holy! You should see this thing.. Anyone put in this situation or have any advice? My husband thinks that she is going to give us a hard time...

Please Help!!

Marissa0717

When I was in a wedding at a Catholic Church we wore strappless dresses. A few of the girls had tattoos as well so the bride's mom made us all semi-shear shawls to cover our sholders during the ceremony. They were really simple, but looked really nice and we ended up taking some fun pictures with them too. After the ceremoney and some pictures, we  stopped wearing them for the reception. It was very cute solution to the strappless dress and tattoos in church issue and nobody felt singled out.

NillaWafer10

There are some pretty nifty tattoo covering kits out there for weddings.  You can also go to MAC and have it airbrushed to cover it up.  I would express to her that you love her individuality, but the church would appreciate it to be covered.  I think if you make it a big deal emotionally, then it will become one.

lcarp203

Yes, it is her body.  But, more importantly, it is your wedding.  If you want her to cover it, she should understand where you are coming from no mater what the reason is.  As an adult, hopefully she will understand that.  The ladies above have offered some great advice.  Hopefully you two can come to an agreement that works for you both.

strwberry_e

thanks so much guys! I just hope it all works out somehow I feel alot better now

sms274

I had the same issue with my sister. She has a full sleeve on one arm and a chest plate. She was kind ofhurt when I asked her to cover it but we came to a compromise, she will cover it for the ceremony and the pictures and sheis free to wash it off for the reception. Like you, I don't have problems with the tatto itself, but we are getting married in a church and I just used that as my crutch and told her it was really important that the eye go to fiance and I in our pictures and not her tattoos.

While she, myself and most the people we know are comfortable with tattoos and have no problem, some may not and the last thing we want to do is offend anyone. I woudl jsut sit down and speak with her about it. the Kat Von D makeup works well but it can be a bit pricey. Just be open and honest with her and see what she feels most confortab;e with in terms of covering them.

Just stay firm on wanting them covered and leave at her discretion (with your approval) how she does so.

HTH and best of luck

1104*Celsius

I think that if you're going to ask her to cover up with a pashmina or shawl or something, you should probably have all of your girls do it, so that it doesn't look to her or your guests as though she is singled out and having to cover up. To be super accommodating, you could (should?) purchase these for the girls if you can, since it's something that makes you uncomfortable. At least, I think that's what I would do.

Given that it's a church ceremony, have them wear it for that, and for photos  and then at the reception, don't worry about it. I know it's a stressor for you, but it is HER body, and she obviously made a very permanent decision for herself that will last much longer than your one wedding day. (But I completely understand your concern over it.)

mresendez

I would phrase it very matter-of-factly: the church has a dress code/rules and so her tattoo will need to be covered. I had to enforce a dress code for my ceremony and I just acted like it was not a big deal, and everyone seemed to be ok with it. I'm sure some of the bms complained a little bit about it in private, but it never turned into anything and everyone complied.