Invite Question

jabeckner

I have a while until my wedding, but my mom is making all my invitations by hand so we have done a lot of planning and she has even made a sample of the final product so that we can approve it.

Well today I get a call from FI saying that he wants him parents names included on the invite as well. I dont want to be a total bitch, but I think my parents deserve to be the only ones on there since they are paying for the entire wedding and with my taste it wont be cheap. I am really upset that after they both said they liked them and approved that out of no where he thinks they should be included. I really don't know what to do, because like I said I think my parents deserve that recognition since they are doing so much for the wedding.

Am I completely wrong here?  I have searched for wedding invitation wording and on multiple sites have seen it where whent he birdes parents are hosting there's are the only names included.

NillaWafer10

Etiquette wise, FI's parents should only be named if they are co-hosting (paying) for the wedding.

Word to the wise, you don't want to start an argument over this.  There will be many more details to come, and you have to choose your battles   The guest list will be a bigger monster haha!

FutureMrsL.R.Allen

You could say something along the lines of:

Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter, YOUR NAME to YOUR FINACES NAME, son of Mr. and Mrs. Grooms Parents. 

To me this still says that your parents are the ones hosting.  My parents are paying for everything, but it is still their son's wedding, so I put "Togther with their parents, Lyndsey and Hugh invite you to join them. . ."

jabeckner

Thanks Ladies.

lcarp203

I was kinda in the same boat.  I like FUTURE's wording!  I may just have to use that!

Agentmysterycat

HI girls!
I popped on her a few weeks ago, don't know if you remember me...I'm a former Knottie turned Nestie...
As I stated in my intro, I work in the industry...in Invites to be exact...though I wont say where, as its against the rules

Anyway....To answer the question....

Something along the lines of the below is totally appropriate, still says your parents are hosting, and just acknowledges his parents by saying he is the son of them...because, truly his is the son of them. That is all the wording is saying, it has nothing to do with hosting or $

Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Johnson
invite you to join them
in a celebration of love
as their daughter, Emma Margaret
is united in marriage to
Mr. Jack Warren Smith
son of Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Smith


If it were to be worded this way, it would indicate that both set were paying
Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Johnson
and Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Smith
request the honour of your presence
to witness the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
uniting their children
Emma Margaret to Jack Warren


I always tell my brides to talk to both set of parents about the wording. Sometimes they are more sensative about things then you would think. Its not worth starting off a war over wording. It doesnt harm anyone by including his parents names as the son of....