I'm having a little issue with my MOH- and I knew I could vent to you girls.
I am allowing my bridesmaids to select their own dresses, I've only given them specifications on color and length. I told them they could get them from wherever, but that I would have veto power. I asked them to have their dresses by the end of Feb, as the wedding is the end of March. Last I checked, no one has started shopping or anything.
So today I had the idea that perhaps I was being a little TOO open, and with so much freedom, perhaps the girls are overwhelmed with all the options (I know I felt that way choosing vendors). So I sent them all an e-mail asking how they would feel if we narrowed the search to just David's Bridal dresses. They have the right color and a pretty good selection- I thought I was making it easy. I proposed the idea only as a suggestion and asked them to let me know what they thought.
Two of my 5 bridesmaids told me they liked the idea. Then later in the day I received (in error) a text msg from my MOH that was intended to go to one of my other bridesmaids (who happens to be the MOH's sister). The text stated "We should tell her we want to get our dresses from where we want, like she told us. Why is she butting in, she said it was our decision". She soon realized the error and tried to put up a cover story about who the msg was intended to. I told her I knew that she was referring to me as the person butting in, and that I would rather she admit to it so we could work on the issue instead of lying. She called me and said she was sorry- that she was very stressed about many things going on and that she shouldn't have sent it at all. She stated that she was only venting and it was just the stress coming out. She said that she already had plans to have her mother make the dress. I told her that the e-mail was not intended to insist that they girls go to David's Bridal- that it was merely a suggestion and if she wasn't in favor of it, that's all she had to say. We agreed that we're both stressed out. She apologized again and we made amends.
I wish I could say that I feel better but I really don't. I'm hurt that she would accuse me of butting in (even if it wasn't intended to be directed at me). I've been crazy stressed out about the wedding and I really thought my suggestion would make it easier on the girls. I re-read the e-mail 3 times to make sure I wasn't pushing the idea either. I did tell them that they could get their dresses from wherever they want, but in the end it is my wedding. It's upsetting that she would say (to anyone) that I was butting in, meanwhile it's my friggin' wedding.
Anyhow. That was a lot longer than I had orig intended. Thanks for listening though! Keeps me from writing a long-winded mean e-mail to my MOH.