Wedding Party Question

alschmid

Posted this also in the month board so October brides here can reply twice

Has everyone already asked their wedding party?

I am getting close to 6 months out and am debating on what we want to do for ours.  Originally I really wanted to keep a small wedding party (2-3) - but as it is, I am just having a real problem narrowing down my close friends.  I feel like I've been close with several different groups thoughout my life so far and kind of like the idea of everyone represented.  And these are of course ladies that I am still in pretty good touch with and feel like will always be there for me.  So currently I"m at about 5  (High school/oldest friend, Cousin, college friend, and two local friends).  I wanted to get down to 4 and was thinking of inviting one local friend and maybe having the other do a reading.  Or just doing local friends since its always a little harder to have OOT bridesmaids.  But now I am just thinking that if I'm having such a hard time leaving someone out, I should have them all.

FI has 3-4 people he definitely wants included.  So we may have uneven parties - which is fine with me.

I also was wondering if everyone has done the MOH thing?  I was kind of thinking of just having everyone as bridesmaids, since I'll be in a whole nother worry about who to choose for that, but FI definitely wants best man so I was thinking that might be strange?

FutureMrsL.R.Allen

I asked mine about 9 months out, and I just asked my 4 closest friends.  No feelings were hurt even though I left out plenty of other good friends.

As for the MOH thing, I have a maid of honor and my fiance was not going to have a best man, they were all going to just be groomsmen.  He ended up changing his mind and asking on of the guys to be the BM, but for several months it was just 4 groomsmen.  I do not think it is strange and honestly I am sure no one would notice.  We have them all listed on our wedding website and not a single person brought up the fact that I had a MOH and he did not have a BM.

Cola1511

You can always make the non-BM ladies ushers if you want them to feel included

NillaWafer10

I also asked mine about 9 months out.  I waited until I had the venue secured haha!  FI still hasn't asked all of his GM's.  I flat out told him that it was getting rude Not one of my finer moments, but we are 2 months out, and his have to travel.

alschmid

Nilla - are you doing a head table at Val Vista?  I kind of like a sweetheart table idea, but not really sure how it would work there with the stage and all

acnahm

We had/have the same problem.  Lots of extremely close friends, but planned on having a small wedding party as our wedding is going to be small.  In the end (although we haven't asked them yet as we're still about 10 months out), we decided to have a large WP (5-6 BM/5-6GM).  We just couldn't image not having the most important people in our lives standing with us.  And we decided that although it might look odd having so many people, we don't care because we want them up there with us  Because the wedding party is large and everyone in it is married or in a serious relationship, we decided to have a sweetheart table at the reception and seat everyone with their significant other and kids.  I personally wouldn't want to be separated from FI (it's happened before) so I didn't want that to be an issue.

sms274

I have a HUGE wedding party and stillleft a few people out, only two got their feelings hurt, one got over it quickly and the other well, she just likes drama. I asked all of mine immediately after getting engaged (within a week) which was about 10 months out from the wedding.

Do what YOU want for your bridal party. Sides do not have to be even and if you don't want a MOH you don't need one. Just because there is a best man, doesn't require you to have a MOH.