Honeymoon registry?

applemarie

Hi Ladies-
Are any of you doing a HM registry?  I know there is ALOT of controversy over the idea.  Actually I never even heard of it until a future wedding guest suggested the idea.  But then I started reading blogs about it and so many were opposed.  As I could understand why.  But our honeymoon will be well paid for before our wedding as we are leaving the same night...so if we were going to do it I would add excursions, spa days maybe dinner nights etc.  I would definetly plan to add another gift registry for those who want the other option...

Just wanted to know who was doing one and what site you are using?

Thanks girls!

kimheartsscott

I'm not doing one, probably for the same reasons all those blogs you read stated. 

If you must, make sure you find a website that will not take fees out of what your guests give you.  As a guest, I would be pretty pissed thinking I am giving you a $50 massage, only to find out $6 went to some random website.

NillaWafer10

Check out this post.

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-reviews_.0

This is a link for some hm registry reviews

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB121020123458375115.html?mod=pj_main_hs_coll

applemarie

Thanks NillaWafer10,
Super helpful!  I can't believe how some people can be so rude!! I was reading some of those posts from the link...WOW! We are celebrating one of the best days of our lives and people can just be so mean! 

Anyway- I will for sure weigh my options!  I mean like I said I never ever heard of this idea...but if a person who attended another wedding liked it and now is going to attend mine...then I might consider it! 

The concept is a neat idea...but you are right KIMHEARTSCOTT...I wouldn't want those service charges either!

Thanks again!

NillaWafer10

They are pretty snotty sometimes haha! There is one girl in particular who never has anything nice to say, but I guess there is always going to be that person

Don't take it to heart if they attack you on any post.  Come back here and we will give you opinions without being monsters hahahaha!

HBHoneymooners

I did a honeymoon registry in addition to a traditional registry. We used honeyfund.com which was completely free for our guests. We went on a cruise in the Eastern Mediterranean and asked for different excursions, special dinners, and spa treatments. Lots of our guests chose to give us gifts from the honeymoon registry and when we sent out our thank you cards we included a couple photos of how we used their gift. I don't think it was in the slightest bit tacky. It was a great way for people to give us amazing experiences instead of toasters or blenders. I think it is an awesome idea to supplement a department store registry,

lcarp203

I have a relative that used notanothertoaster.com   She was getting married in France and is now living in England, and apparently this is the main site that is used in Europe.

I thought that it was really tacky because you just gave a dollar amount and had not clue what it was going to.  You sort of sent virtual gifts like shoes, wine glasses ect.  But in the end they got the cash.  The reason why I thought it was tacky was due to the fact that you entered a dollar amount you wanted to give in Euros.  So I had to take the time to figure out the exchange.  Then at the end, I got charged the 6 percent (or what ever the charge was at that time) which boosted the amount I have because it was charged to me on top of my "gift".  So, my $100 dollar gift cost me 106 at the end. 

Dont get me wrong, I paid the fee and used the site because that is what she wanted on her wedding date.  However, it was not an easy task to undertake because of the complicated website and I also felt slighted that the fee was charged on top of the amount I already had decided to give.

Just my two cents.  If you can find a site that is easy to use and the fee is charged on the back end, I say give it a go!  It is your day!

Celles

I have to side with the "mean girls" on this one.  It may be one of the best days of your life -- but to the majority of your guests, it's just a day.  You don't get carte blanche to be tacky or downright rude just because you're getting married.  (I'm not saying that you're either of these things!  I'm talking in general terms here, not about anyone specifically.)

I agree that some of the international boards can be harsh, but I honestly think it's a good thing.  I'd rather get shot down on The Knot by blunt but well-meaning strangers than do something ridiculous at my wedding and inadvertantly offend my closest friends and family.  Will they forgive me for it?  Yes, probably. But it would take me longer to forgive myself once I came to my senses and realized what a prima donna I'd been.

That said, I do find cash and honeymoon registries tacky and have declined invitations to weddings that advertised them (and, sadly, I do mean advertised: one girl I know passed out cards to her honeymoon registry at work, if you can believe it!).

lcarp203

I would also say on this topic that if you do decide to create a HM registry, then you should also pick 2 stores to register at as well.  That way you give guests options.  So, guests who like the idea of a HM registry can go that route, and others who would prefer the more traditional gift giving have that available to them as well.

I do think that these types of registries are becoming more popular just as buffet dinners and cocktail only receptions are!  My mom just about fainted when I told her that we were having a buffet dinner!  She thought it would be tacky!  But, times have changed since her wedding! 

NillaWafer10

Haha how funny! I think my mom paid all of $5 a plate for her plated dinner.  Times really have changed!

Celles you're probably right.  There are many wedding faux pas I would have committed without their help!

applemarie

Points well taken and respected. 

CELLES we wouldn't be on these boards if we didn't want the advice and I COMPLETLEY agree about the comments!  I definitly believe in positive criticism and opinions but not being judgemental!  The other posts on the boards just surprised me!  And WOW about your coworker...now that can be a little extreme ...I could understand how you could feel.

HBHONEYMOONERS...thats an awesome idea!  I love the picture idea...that way it proved you put their money to good use!!!  ps...I loved how classy and elegant your wedding looked!  It's for sure an inspiration look that I am trying to portray!!

Ladies, as always, thanks for all of your input!  It's very enlightening!

Marissa0717

We will probably do one because we already live together and there is not much we need for our house. I am sure will register at 2 stores with a few items, but honestly after combining our houses we are pretty set!
We had friends do a honeymoon registry and they sent us a picture of themselves on the dinner cruise we paid for. We absolutely loved knowing it was something they loved!! We helped them create a little memory of their first few days as a married couple.
Who cares if you register for a ATV tour in some beautiful destination or a blender you will never use?