Getting married in a couple of days

KATERS882

Its funny.  I'm getting married this Saturday and I feel most laid back right now compared to the whole wedding planning process.  I thought I'd start getting stressed and maybe that will start happening when it get closer.  I'm working thru Thursday so that is probably helping me through the week.  For the last week at work, I get asked everyday if I'm getting nervous and it just hasn't happened yet for me.  Hopefully, it stays that way.

So I have to vent....I had my final meeting with the hall tonight and everything went great.  When I left the hall, I had a voicemail from one of bridesmaids/great friend (I stood up in her wedding too).  She said that her husband won't be coming now because he is going to a bachelor party that night and she was wondering who can pick her up on that day since he can't drive her.  It made me so aggrevated and mad.  I can't believe he didn't know about the bachelor party before this.  He always seems to cancel plans when there is something going on with her friends.  This isn't the first and I'm sure it won't be the last time.  Of course, we already put down the final payment and now she will have to drive from Carbondale by herself.

pajarito81

maybe suggest she bring a guest with her and they can share a room somewhere. If she's been thru the whole wedding thing, she should understand cancelling out at the last minute and take some responsiblity for her husband's last min. absence. Who knows what was really said between them..I do think that is waay shady for him to diss his wife at the last minute for a stupid bachelor party. Obviously this should be more important because its important to his "wife." And the fact that she is okay with it too is a little questionable.

I just get so irritated when some people make your wedding or related wedding events out to be like its just an ordinary day or something. I had some of my closest friends not go to my bridal shower last minute for the stupidest reasons when they knew months in advance. I can't imagine my wedding!
Hope it all works out. DOn't worry about her though, suggest something once and then let her worry about it. You got enough to think about on that day!

MrsPaps

I'm glad you are laid back and enjoying the week!

My biggest pet peeve right now are RSVPs. People just assume we know that they are coming but my motto is if I don't have your card then you are not official! Just mail the damn thing back, it's already stamped and everything!!!

arrabelle

her husband sounds like a d-bag.  but she shouldn't expect anybody to pick her up.  do they only have one car?  was she not planning to stay the night?  is carbondale really far away?  is she saying she won't be there if nobody comes to pick her up?  i have lots of questions.

maybe you have a mutual friend who's coming alone and wants to share a hotel room?  but you're not a magician.  offer a couple of suggestions but she needs to figure out her own logistics.

maybe they got in a giant fight and the bach party is just the official reason he's not coming.  who knows.  i have friends in relationships i cannot understand either and at times i want to rescue them, but you can only get so involved.

we were supposed to have a family member drive us from burr ridge to the city last month for a wedding at the rookery, and then we were going to cab home.  figured it would be cheaper than a hotel room.  but, they bailed last minute so we had to drive.  we found FREE overnight parking at a meter in the alley behind the rookery and got a last minute (=2am) 1/2 price deal on a room at the W b/c they had open rooms.  (we booked online in the lobby b/c it was a better price than the guy could give us at the desk.)  so all in all it was probably cheaper than a cab anyway!

maybe your friend will have really good karma and have a good luck experience like that!

happy wedding to you!!!!!  you sound like a nice person.

hz80408

Has she considered Amtrak?

DH went to school at SIU-C, so I used to take the train to Carbondale all of the time.  It's really easy.

KATERS882

MRS. PAPS---I know what you mean regarding the response cards.

We had a lot of people that didn't respond too.  They said that they didn't know that they needed to respond.  Parents had to do a lot of calling.  We actually just got another regret card in the mail yesterday and our last date to respond was 2 weeks ago!

Also, we had quite of few people that responded yes and then changed their mind after the RSVP date.  They never formally told us that they weren't going to come now.  We found out from other family members.

The best was that we got two response cards back with no names written on them and no return address so we didn't know who sent them.  We determined it was my FI's family since the post office stamp said Quad Cities but his parents had to call everyone to find out who sent it back without their names.  After they found out who, they said they didn't know they had to write their names.