FI Little Sister???

tncassa

My FI has a half sister who is 9 years old.  I would like to include her in the wedding somehow but my FI doesn't really want to or feel it's neccesary.  Any suggestions?!  I was thinking Junior BM but FI thinks that's too involved.  And I think she's too old for flower girl?  Any thoughts would be great!

stinad1983

How about having her hand out programs and be the guest book attendant? Those jobs would make a 9 year old feel important!

WoodsSeltzer09

I have a 9 yo niece who is going to be a Jr. Bridesmaid. She is a little old for a flower girl yet to young for a bridesmaid. She loves it because she has a different style dress then everyone else. I let her pick the dress and it’s designed for a tween – not to old and not to young. I just really wanted her to feel just as special as my other niece who’s a FG.  

kthame

I too have a 10 year-old niece, and she's my only niece, so I am having her be the Junior Bridesmaid. I don't it's too involved at all; at that age I think they're just really excited to be IN the wedding, and to be getting dressed up. My niece is so excited to be wearing the "mini" version of the BMs dresses. I would agree with you that she's too old for a FG. We're not having the FG/RB either...she's the only "little" person in our wedding.

chosen175

When my sister got married, she had our (then) 9 year old cousin say a blessing before dinner.  That might be an option if you had intended to do that.  You could also ask her if she'd like to be involved and what she'd like to do.  She may not want to do anything - 9 is kind of a weird age.

mandybear7

Eh, the only real "job" a BM has is to buy the dress and show up. I don't think that's too much to ask for a 9 year old, but run it by your FILs because it would require them to buy her the dress. I'm sure she would feel very important that she was able to stand up with you!If you're having a full mass, she could bring up the Eucharist; or, she could do a reading (if she's not scared).When I was younger, I had to hand out programs for my cousin's wedding. I didn't feel important. I hated it. I just wanted to sit with my siblings.

rhorowitz

unrolling the aisle runner? helping decorate? set up placecards?

ennaerb80

I'd maybe listen to your FI, it's his family member.  If any issues arise, then he can have a discussion with his mom, dad, sister, etc., and explain why he feels that way.

chosen175

Oh, and you also need to keep in mind that this girl's "other" parent (the one she doesn't have in common with your FI) might not want her to participate, either for financial reasons or because the relationship isn't the best with her ex's family.  Maybe your FI is trying to tell you that in his own way by repeatedly telling you not to include her.

tncassa

Thanks everyone!!  Keep em coming!  FI thinks a JBM is too involved bc he doesnt want to "babysit" her the whole time??  She really adores him so I would like something that makes her feel special and isnt too boring for a little kid?