thank you card issue

lish_tish

Hi gals-  so it's time for me to be writing my thank you's for all the gifts I received at the wedding.  One problem.  One of my guests, who happens to be a close family member, gave me a nice check that bounced.  So my questions is- do i send a thank you for coming and the gift or just a thank you for coming?  I feel like if I just thank them for coming, it will clue them into knowing the check bounced.  (by the way- this is not the type of person who keeps track of their bank accounts, and probably has no idea it bounced)  But I also think its weird to give thanks for a check that bounced.  Anyone know what the etiquette is for this sticky situation?TIA!

beautifulnryan

I posted something similar about my friend's situation a few weeks ago.  A lot of people said not to say anything and hope that they will figure it out on their own and she was going to just let it go...until she talked to her mom.  Her mom told her that maybe she should tell the guest about it because there may be a bank issue the guest wasn't aware of and to also tell that person that it was fine, that they didn't have to give them a gift at all.It turned out that her guest gave her a check from her old bank account and she is the type of person to not pay attention to her bank account.  She wouldn't have known otherwise!

Fink-Nottle

I agree that I would probably mention it since it's a close family member or have your mom or someone mention it. Though when someone bounces a check usually the bank charges them a bounced check fee, don't they?