I've got an RSVP dilemma. My boss, who is highly unorganized, lost his invitation. I gave him the main part (with the location & time info) again, but not another RSVP card because he was very likely to lose it again and I figured he could just RSVP in person or via email. However, on the RSVP cards, we stated the number of seats "reserved" for each party, which I did not take into account when reprinting his invitation. Of course, he has now informed me that he "needs to check with the wife, but the whole family is probably coming" with the two kids included. The problem is, the kids (ages 2 and 5) were not invited. We put the cutoff at kids in the wedding and those of people traveling from other states - where it would be difficult to find a babysitter for a weekend. So, there WILL be kids there, but his in particular were not invited.
I didn't feel bad at first when not inviting the kids because they have two nannies, one of which I believe is even a live-in nanny, so it's not like it would be difficult to leave the kids for a Saturday evening. But now I have the dilemma of whether or not to let him bring the kids, and if not, how to tell him they weren't in the guest count. Any advice??