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Wedding shower with out of town guests

So my FI grew up in Northern Cali and moved to Chicago 7 years ago... for me! The wedding shower won't be until next year but I don't know what would be appropriate for inviting his family. 

I would imagine most of the time, they would throw me a shower out there? But the idea hasn't come up yet.  

Should I send the invitation still just to be nice? SO CONFUSSED!

Re: Wedding shower with out of town guests

  • aimers1525aimers1525 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hi there! First, will someone be throwing/hosting the shower for you? It's frowned upon to throw any type of pre-wedding parties for yourself.  It would be okay to offer a guest list if asked.

    My DH's aunts and grandmother hosted a shower for me, and invited his aunts even if they lived out of state. They also included my mom, aunts and grandma since no one on my side threw me a shower--my friends did. I guess it just depends on who offers to host a shower for you.

  • edited December 2011
    Oh of course, my mother is going to be throwing me the shower but I am figuring out the guest list since she doesn't know a lot of the people we are inviting to the wedding :)
  • fashionxfashionx member
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't invite them when they're so far away and clearly wouldn't travel that far. But honestly you have so much time I would just wait. Those invites won't go out until next year so you have plenty of time to figure it out, and if you may be getting an OOT shower with your FI's family, if they decide to throw you one.
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  • edited December 2011
    H's aunt threw me a shower up in Minneapolis. My mom only invited in-town people to my in-town shower (including some people who I barely knew and not invited 2 OOT bridesmaids. Silly moms).
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