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RSVP drama

mirandarocksmirandarocks
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ok so my RSVP due date is Wednesday and I've only got about 1/3 of the RSVPs  back. how annoying. what do I do? after Wednesday do I start sending emails or is it more "proper" to individually call these people?

it's pretty awkward either way - like "hey people are you coming to my dam* wedding or not?" Tongue out

why can't they just send back that little pre-stamped card and we could avoid this drama. ugh.
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Re: RSVP drama

  • butterfieldeightbutterfieldeight member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    My best friend got married a few years back and I think she had the same issues.

    One day it won't be tacky to send out an Evite in addition to sending out formal invites. I think people live by the computer and snail mail gets forgotten about easily.

    Sorry you are having such an issue. I don't think you are the only one.

    GL!
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  • kag0215kag0215 member
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    edited December 2011
    Call them if they answer the phone they have to give you an answer. If you send an email they may read it and then forget about it thinking that they'll email you back later.
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  • lawhitedlawhited member
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    edited December 2011
    I feel for you as I JUST went through this (see recent RANT post).  :(  A few days after the due date I called and said the following (or left similar voicemail):

    Hi XXX - hope all is going well and that you're having a great Labor Day weekend! Just wanted to drop you a quick line..  XXX and I haven't heard back from you regarding our wedding on the XXth. Are you and XXX able to join us??  If you could please let me know (either way) I would appreciate it. We need to turn our final numbers into our reception site.

    Then I waited a few days and if I STILL didn't hear from them they received this:

    Hi XXX. Since we still haven't heard from you at this point regarding the wedding we're going to go ahead and mark you and XXX down as a "no."  Sorry you couldn't make it - we'll miss celebrating with you!

    I ended up hearing from everyone after that so it all ended fine.  It is VERY frustrating though so just hang in there.   Good luck!!

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  • duckie1905duckie1905 member
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    edited December 2011
    If your RSVP date is Wednesday I would wait a few days after (maybe until the following Monday) and then start calling.  Actually call.  Emails are just as easy to ignore as invitations.  Phone calls and voicemail messages might give people the hint.

    I would wait through the weekend, though, because I have seen many that have the idea that placing it in the mail by the RSVP date is the same as having it in (like the postmark counts or something).  So, I'm sure you'll get a few stragglers that will cut down the amount of calls you have to make.

    I would say something like "Hey, we didn't receive your RSVP and we were wondering if you were going to be able to join us for the wedding?"  If you are leaving a message I would give them a date to respond by such as "Please call me back by xx date and let me know otherwise I'll mark you down as a no.  But, I really can hope that you can attend!"
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  • mirandarocksmirandarocks
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    ok, thanks for the advice. i did get alot yesterday so maybe i'll get flooded with them in the next couple of days
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