monogram on invites etc

catherinerbirch

So lately I've been having some fun developing a custom monogram for DIY paper stuff. I came up with one that I love and showed it to my mom. She loves it too but mentioned that she didn't think that I should use my future last initial in the middle of the monogram on the invites since we aren't married yet. I hadn't thought of this before.
The only alternative I was thinking is to use an & on the invites instead of the initial and then use the initial on the menus/programs.
Any thoughts?

kthame

Hmm...that's an interesting point. I actually don't use my future last name initial, just our first name initials. They're in my bio (link below) if you want to see what they look like. I know a few oher girls also have their names as well w/o the last name initial.

Noron

According to etiquette, you're not supposed to use your future last name in a monogram until after you're married. I found something that said: "Until after the wedding, you should not be using your married initials. Instead, your wedding invitation monogram should consist of the bride’s and groom’s first initials only."
That being said, I would have never known this until the knot, so I'm guessing not many of your guests would either.

HTH!

jessNlane52804

I have heard of the ettiquette that pp mentioned. I have also seen beautiful, classy invitations that had the couple's married last initial on them. I think using only the first initials separated by & or + makes the invitation feel more modern and using the last initial only gives a more classic, traditional vibe. I think this is one ettiquette rule that would be ok to break.

awed81

If you're following traditional etiquette, you are not supposed to use your married monogram before you're actually married. The monogram is basically signifying that you are "John and Catherine Last name" which is not the case yet. 

You could just use your two first name initials with no + or &. I saw a great example a while back that did that. Here is a link:  http://www.sanskripts.com/products/invitations-wedding-anniversary-monogram-isabel