I have a secret observer of these boards for about 3 months now and have learned a great deal about weddings, vendors, DIY projects, all the wonderful and tragic things that goes into planning a wedding. After countless hours researching, talking to my married friends and become secretly obsessed by theknot boards, I can say without hesitation, you really do get what you paid for.
For those knotties who ask for a delicious, pretty cake for $200, a $1500 photography package that includes two photogs, unlimited hours, a flush-mount album, engagement session and free prints or a florist who charges
$20/centerpiece- please manage your expectations. After comparing/contrasting both expensive and inexpensive vendors, there usually is a reason why a vendor is more expensive than another. Are there exceptions? Yes. But not in most cases. Please know that your $200 cake will most likely be a sheet cake (unless you live in Chicago suburbs) from a chain grocery store and your $1500 photographer will not be one who has worked in the business for 5-10 years and gives you unique images.
Like everyone, I totally understand budgets and DIY projects. And I have seen some pretty awesome DIY decor and some really busted DIY decor. If you have the time, energy and savvy for the craft stuff-good for you! I tried doing wedding invitations by myself and almost had a nervous breakdown and I wasted a ton of time.
I invite you all to argue with me if you think I am out of line or wrong in any way. And I am not asking you all to bump up your wedding budgets. Just priortize and manage your expectations and know it's pretty hard to find an inexpensive, and absolutely fabulous vendor in this city.