Groomsmen all dropped the ball with the Bach party- help! (XP)

Cocnut0216

Hi all, 

We're getting married next weekend and I've just found out that none of the groomsmen have done anything to plan the bachelor party for my fiance.  Needless to say I'm pissed off especially b/c for the past 3 months theyve done nothing but talk about taking him out.  

Whatever.

I know it's not the bride's place to do so, but I don't want him to be without a party, so I'm looking for help on ideas to plan it.  

Does anyone have ideas for a bachelor party (girly bar need not be the only option) for the South Chicago area, or other ideas in general?   

Your help is greatly needed and appreciated.

- J

lindseyann410

A lot of guys suck at planning.  I bet they think that they'll just take him out after the rehersal dinner or something.  

I know you'll feel bad for you FI if they fall through, but planning a bach party really can't be done by the bride.  You can't tell his friends how to spend their money.

Jacqueline210

Do not let them take him out after the rehearsal unless they are all very well behaved. Otherwise there's a good chance you'll have a hungover groom.

Can they get together this weekend? Just tell your fiance to call his guys and tell them to meet him at his favorite neighborhood bar. My husband had to set up the basic plans for his bachelor party, because his best man/brother was underage and the rest of his groomsmen lived out of town. It was no big deal and they had a lot ot fun.

aimers1525

Does his dad live local? My H's friends pretty much planned nothing, but my FIL was great and planned everything for my H. Maybe give his dad a hint that no one has planned anything?

marisa2012

There is not much you can do. It seems these guys really don't care much which is sad. But I agree with others, don't let them take him out after rehersal. He might not be in the best shape on your wedding day.

fashionx

I would let it go. My H's friends were planning something that fell through, but H didn't really care much about having a huge thing. So it ended up being a couple guys bringing beers over while I was gone for my b-party and they just hung out at home. My H is more of a home body though. Maybe like PP suggested he can go out to a local bar with a few guys and that would be fun for him. I would DEFINITELY not suggest him going out after the rehearsal, or he's likely to be a mess on your wedding day. 

ETA: I think if I planned my H's b-party and he knew he would feel like it was a pity party of sorts. Your guy may not feel the same way, but just a thought.

hz80408

Does your FI want a party?

I wouldn''t let the guys go out after RH, I would definitely want them to go out this wknd.

mbody

It's really not your place to plan his bachelor party- Especially because you won't be there. Pre-wedding parties are thrown in honor of the couple, bride, or groom and aren't a necessity. Maybe you can suggest to your FI to just ask a couple of his friends to go out this weekend for drinks but he shouldn't be calling it a bachelor party.