Post-Wedding Brunch?

ChiShanona

A friend is doing this and opening gifts during.  I've never heard of it before so it struck me as odd.  I didn't think you were supposed to open wedding gifts in front of everyone.  For one thing, most will be cards with money, so who wants to watch you collect your cash?  It almost seems rude to me.  But maybe I'm just not aware of the protocol.  Do people just open the actual gifts and not the cards?  What's the ettiquette on this one?  TIA.

madibelle

I have been to a few of the day after brunches... the bride and groom will open gifts at one point. One i went to they opened them while everyone ate so people were not so bored. the other they did not open them till later in the day, it was more of a relaxing time to chat and get together.  Everyone does it a little different but it is not unheard of to do a brunch especially with out of town guests that really have nothing or anyone to see the next day. I will be having one, i have alot of OOT guest coming in so it will be a time to visit that is less formal. I hope this helps.

jbll326

We had a casual dinner at my parent's house the next day with just our immediate families - Dad grilled burgers and mom made some sides. We opened the gifts only and just the two of us opened cards later that night by ourselves. I think it's rude and tacky to open the cards in front of other people; it should be a private thing. We're really glad we opened the gifts with just our immediate family. It was a really nice way for us all to wind down from the wedding together.

TatiMarie

There are two types of brunches I have attended: one was just a big day after celebration where everyone had a big breakfast and socialized (usually around 40-50 people no gifts were opened) OR a brunch were gifts were opened but that was only with close family and bridal party.  I don't think it's that weird if you're really close with the bride & groom, but otherwise, yes, I could see it as being boring.

angeliu27

We had a post wedding brunch.  Since most of our family and friends were from out of town we had it to get together.  We only opened the gifts and did the cards later that evening, just the two of us.  We really enjoyed it, because it gave a chance to thank our guests for coming and recount the wonderful evening before.

Sparkette19

I've heard of this before, especially for OOT guests. If you're close to the B&G then you may receive an invitiations to this.

I wouldn't do it personally b/c I think it's kind of odd too, but that's b/c we don't do this in my circle.

ChiShanona

Thanks for your replies.  This helps me to get some insight into the whole thing.