When FI and I first got engaged and we had planned to marry near home we put a deposit down on a wonderful old house with beautiful gardens in our city. It is actually the first house ever built in the city. After some discussion we have decided to have our AHR there. The problem is that it is not available the weekend after we get back. It is available the 30th of June and the 7th of July. The 4th falls on a Wed. next year. FI thinks that the 30th will compete with too many 4th of July activities that people may have planned. I think it may but more people will take the Thursday and Friday after the 4th off and go out of town. We live in a military city and most of our friends were or are in the service so this is a pretty important holiday around here. My Mother thinks that people will come to the bbq and then later leave to go see fireworks etc. Which we may also do, so I don't have a problem with that. What do you think? Would you have it the weekend before or after?