NWR: a post from vino

KKakes

So, as most of you know...I work, a lot and late. But so does my FI. We work our butts off (but that is why we moved to NYC I guess). Anyway, he always works longer than me (hes in finance and works for an Australian bank...which means he works US house and AU hours!!) Anyway, I miss him I wish we both didn't have to work til 8 or 10 at night. We are up at the crack of dawn, squeeze in runs if we are lucky, then thats it til we eat dinner at like 10. I am getting worn out and it sucks Just having a blue moment, am 2 glasses of wine deep, have dinner waiting and want to vent Tonight was the one night we decided we would be home by 7 and he got sucked into a call that just finished. SO, I am just waiting and I HATE waiting!!! And the worst part is that I left work unfinished to come home so I will have to be in the office tomorrow at an ungodly hour. Someday...well a soon someday!!...we will be moving back to OZ, and I cant wait because our "driven lets make money days" will be over and we can surf, come home early and just settle down like normal people that we used to be. YAY!! My energy and quest for "success" is freaking wearing me out. I don't think I can work like this forever...how do people do it?! Thats all for now... -from my glass of rose ;-)

SkyyBC

Hang in there, Kelsey.  And at the moment, you should just relax, drink that glass of wine (or 3), and enjoy the time away from the office.  You've clearly earned that at the very least.  Soon enough, you will be in Hawaii (getting married!!) and then in Australia living the good life.  And don't be too mad at the FI either...I know it sucks to wait, but I guarantee he would also rather be home with you, eating dinner and then cuddling on the sofa, rather than stuck on another late work call.  So much work can be exhausting and unfulfilling.    I am a true believer in work/life balance, so I do hope you are able to get to that point where things are a little more equal in these areas soon.  I always think  the happy medium is the way to go...

bmullock

Hey. That sucks! It sounds like you both work really hard, and i totally feel for you ! my FI is a plastics/trauma surgeon, so he works crazy late nights too, and early mornings, etc etc and i can totally sympathize with the WAITING with dinner and glass of wine....AND if you feel bummed or a little bit grumpy about waiting i think you totally should! its certainly not his fault but it sucks regardless. I was working 12-13 hour shifts for a while and just recently cut back.....and i can tell you relationships get much easier and more fun when things calm down and you have more time to get normal chores done and work out and etc etc I hope you get a little quality time together and i hope that your day tomorrow isnt too insane with the work load and long hours! hang in there!

Angelshann

I just wanted to say I'm sorry you and your FI don't see each other much. I know it is difficult but I will keep my fingers crossed that you will soon be able to spend more time together and have normal schedules that allow you to have romantic dinners at home and spend time with one another. I used to work 6-7 days a week and eventually realized that it just wasn't worth it. I wanted to be with my family and I missed them dearly. Time goes by too quickly to spend my life working like a dog. Here is a {HUG} for you!!

inamra

Ah, I know how you feel in a way b/c I work until 8pm and DH would always call or IM "Are you coming home soon?". I had started a new job 2 months ago so I was trying to work hard and make a good first impression. But now, it's just getting too tiring so this week, I finally made a good effort to come home earlier. I made it home before 7pm on most days, except today (I just got home now). BUT yeah, I'm also looking for better days of more rest and quality time with DH so I know how you feel. But hang in there--that day will come!

LilSwtAzyn

BOO... at least you have the delicious glass of wine.. just think..small sacrifice of time now for a LONG GREAT future ... at least you both have jobs, are doing well in them.. and you are both working long hours so you're not at home waiting all the time for each other to come home

~BFF~

Kelsey, what a bummer!  But keep your head up, it WILL get better.  Just think of the end result and try to enjoy what little time you have to spend together.  Right now, I am going through a similar situation and I am totally burned out by work.  But, enjoy your wine and know that he would rather be with you!  I noticed you said rose, have you tried Bigaro?  So yummy when you are waiting for time to pass!

~BFF~

I miss your blog...  LOVED the cookie resipes and keep checking for more =(  but that's okay, you are indirectly helping me not eat so much sweets!

~BFF~

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jujubee96

Hey Kelsey! Hope you are feeling better today.  I'm sorry that both your schedules are so rough!  Wishing that the next step comes just at the right time for you both.Remember how awesome you are and what an amazing job both you and your FI are doing.  Some might just think of it like you said as "driven let's make money days," - but I think any work done with all the best within you shows integrity and is really admirable.Hope all the hard work and sacrifice now makes the OZ days even sweeter!

HappyGoLuckyGal

My response is a little late, but I'm sending knottie vibes your way. Hoping that you guys come through this season with flying colors.