Dress regret

mauidandy

I'm afraid I already have it....Ever since I bought my Pronovias gown last weekend I've been second guessing it. I feel like it was a little impulsive, since I got it on sale and felt pressured to get it before someone else did. It's the one thing I need to be PERFECT for the wedding, more than flowers, venue, lighting, or food! I loooved shopping for wedding dresses, and the dress I bought is nothing like what I had envisioned. I just saw that one of my absolute favorite designers- Priscilla of Boston- is having a sample sale tomorrow through Sunday in Dallas and I seriously want to call in sick to work and drive down there to see what they have. I could always sell the Pronovias gown if I find something better...AAAAHHHH!!!!! I'm going crazy.

vanilla15

Oh I am sorry Andrea, but I think it is something all brides do, especially if you don't have that "the one" moment.  I am sure the dress you have already is gorgeous.  With that said, is there really any harm taking the day off & checking out other options?  Probably not as long as if you do find smoething else & can't sell your other dress (or not for what you want for it) you won't be in a bind. tough decisions...you will look beautiful either way! 

Snarling Fox

Your Pronovias dress is gorgeous. I just went back and looked at the pictures and it looks amazing on you. It wouldn't hurt to look at the Priscilla of Boston sale - I saw their ad - makes me want to go look too just for fun. I say go and look! If not, then you'll wonder if you would've found something better there. If you do find an awesome deal, then make sure you pip, and if you don't find anything else, then your Pronovias gown is still stunning! If it makes you feel any better - at this very moment, I have 3 (yes three) wedding dresses here in my house (I know, it's sick - really really sick and a long story) and if I don't stay away from that Priscilla of Boston sale, I fear it could be 4.

diorgrl8

as someone who cannot make a decision to save my life..I decided not to even step foot in another dress shop when i bought my dress.. but i can totally relate to what you're feeling. personally, i think the dress you got looks amazing on you and it looks so classic and timeless... Good luck on whatever you decide though! It's tough being a girl ! hehe

kaesha

I had it too, I think that's natural! I never had the "it's the one" experience, and frankly I don't believe there's ONE dress for each person. That's just crazy! Heck, I don't even believe that you only get "the one" in love either.

nahokulele

Oh, bummer!  But you know, I agree with the other girls--I'm afraid if you don't go and check out the sample sale you will keep dwelling on whether this dress is the dress.  Yes, you CAN always sell any dress.  An idea....You can make a deal with yourself--allow yourself to go to the sale, and if you don't get that "THE DRESS" feeling, then you will know to let it the issue go and stick with your initial dress. Too bad I have to work, or I would go with you to keep you company!!

emptybee83

i think the dress you have now is GORGEOUS!! and it looks beautiful on you!! i think it's completely common for us brides to have some doubts about our dress!! seriously! but if you really feel like there's another dress out there for you...go ahead and look!

kjane12

Yup, we all know how you feel. I was sold on a dress because of the price and fear that if I didn't make that decision, another girl would snatch the dress.  That's a lot of pressure - and I was impulsive.  BUT .. what a great fall-back dress for you!(that's if you don't find anything better)  Your current dress is stunning.  And you're right about one thing:  If you didn't buy that dress, I probably would've been the one who did

elaineNgene

It's completely natural to 2nd guess your choice.  I, too, never had that "this is the one!" feeling, but I got my dress more because I had to before I ran out of time.  I think that is the danger of getting one too early, because you'll always feel like you might find something better, or your style will change, or new designs will come out.  Just today, I was looking through magazines thinking about getting a 2nd dress, for any at home reception, if I even have one, just to satisfy my need to get a dress in a different style or color or whatever that I didn't get for the actual wedding.I agree with the other wise knotties.  It wouldn't hurt to check out the sale tomorrow, and if you do find something else, I don't think you'll have a problem selling the Pronovias gown.  If you don't go, you'll always wonder what if...you know?Good luck and keep us posted!!!

jujubee96

POB is my absolute FAVE FAVE wedding dress designer - the dress my mom made me is based on a POB dress.  You probably are, but are you around the sample sizes?  Can you call and ask what sizes they have typically for the sample dresses? Do you have favorites of POB that you've already considered from their website? (omg, I looked at their website SO much when I was wedding planning!)Because if there is one or several you have your eye on, remember that if the sample size is like size 12 (i.e. 8 or 10 street size), and you are a 0 or 2, it might be hard to alter down, especially if the dress is intricate.When they have trunk shows, they seem to offer 10% off the price; i know not much, but just fyi.I love your Pronovias gown, but if it were me, I would go to the POB sale because(1) you said it's the one thing you want to be perfect for the wedding.  Do you have the dress yet?  Try it on again and see how you feel in it.  Or if you don't have it, look at the pictures.(2) it's Priscilla of Boston!!  How can you not go?!?  Just don't spend an amount of money that you would later regret.can't wait to hear the update!

BoBride28

Andrea, I loooooooved the Pronovias dress on you! But like everyone else said, its normal to wonder whether you made the right decision. I found my dress the first day I went dress shopping, but then felt like I maybe decided too soon and tried on a bunch of other dresses afterwards . . . but none of them were like the dress from the first day. That is how I knew. So you should go to that POB sale and try on dresses and see how you feel. You might realize how much you love the Pronovias dress or you might seriously fall in love with something else and you can sell your other dress. Keep us posted!

REM2008

Sorry Andrea!  I think you look amazing in the dress you have.   I think it's normal to have second thoughts.  I had 7 favorites and it was really hard to choose.  Go check out the POB Sample sale for your own piece of mind.  You may just realize you already have the perfect dress.

carrieoz_76

I'm not having dress regret (still love mine), but I am *really* worried about the shop I bought it from. I learned after buying the dress at a sample sale that the shop has *awful* reviews on yelp and from other knotties on my local board. Ack! Apparently once you buy the dress they are really non-responsive - like, bad. I don't like that I've financially supported a business that's so anti-consumer. I'm also worried b/c let the shop store the dress, so I'm instead going to go get it as soon as I can over the next month or so and store it at a friend's house. FI is super nosy, so I can't keep it here. I don't want to rely on the shop for anything, and I just want to get my dress asap. I know what you mean about feeling the urgency to buy the dress at a sample sale. I definitely felt it, and had that thought - is this THE dress? But I when I tried it on I couldn't imagine loving one more, so I'm still good with the dress. I just want to get out from under the shop. Had I done some research about them before buying I probably would have still bought the dress, but would instead have taken the dress with me when I left.

carrieoz_76

Is it "the one"? Is there such a thing as "the one"? Is it just me or does this thread remind you of a discussion about whether to settle down with your first love, or to hold out for some other (better?) guy who might (might not) come along later?

REM2008

LOL!!!!!!

simmy89

I was just reading carrieoz storry and boy I feel your stress.. I love my dress but since I brought it the shop changed hands, then I have had to deal with this grumpie old lady that should not be in business.. I have been told so many times that the dress will be in.. blah blah blah.. yesterday the told us that it would not be in until the end of the month.. So I sicked the FI on them, he went up to see them today in person and they have guaranteed it will be here tomorrow.. I dont know what I will do if its not.. I have to get it to the dressmakers for fitting and we leave in about a month well 32 days... so I am running out of time..

mauidandy

Ok!!!! I might be insane but I'm on my way!!! POB here I come!!

eacerna

Darling - what you're feeling is perfectly NORMAL!! This is one of the reasons people say STOP looking at other dresses after you have chosen your dress. I hadf to make the conscious effort not to look at magazines or shop for dresses online. There are tons of other beautiful dresses out there so it is but normal to think you couldve gotten something better. HOWEVER, just remember, there was a reason why you chose that dress in the first place. Almost all of us had a love/hate relationship with our dresses. I have also second guessed my dress too. I even had nightmares about it lol. I went back to the store maybe 3 times to change some details on the dress lol.  If it makes you feel better, go back to the store and try on your dress AGAIN. If you think it really doesn't feel right, then perhaps you can try some other dresses.

MrsIH

I agree with all of the previous responses and think it's completely normal.  I did have the "this is it" feeling when I found my dress and my Mom felt the same way when she saw it on me, however not everyone has that feeling... I do think that YOU need to be 100% happy with your decision and perhaps seeing another dress(es) will make you more happy with your initial purchase or you'll find something that you love even more.  Best of luck, keep us posted.

KKakes

Hey girl! Its been a while but I just dug through the posts and found your PIP of your dress. God, its beautiful on you! BUT, I know how it goes. I still have second thoughts and I am 4 weeks away!!! Go to PofB...get it out of your system, then resign and stop looking. Just know you will always find something better, I have at least, but you just have to choose one, feel hot and go forth to the wedding day Good luck...it is hard, trust me that i feel your pain!!!