Receptions receptions receptions

aliblu

Ok, since only really my immediate family and very close friends are coming to Maui with us, we are having an AHR. Im having a dinner reception at the SeaWatch with some dancing. My question is, would it be weird to do all the traditional reception things twice? (cake cutting, first dance, bride/father dance, speeches, bouquet/garter toss) Some of the stuff I wont do in Hawaii, but I want to do speeches and first dance and things like that, so would it be weird if I did it again at my AHR also?

kaesha

Okay, my honest opinion is that you can't repeat everything. The reason I'm saying this is because I think... well, reruns are NEVER as good as the first time. I'm HUGE on rituals, but I don't believe in pursuing them without authenticity. I don't think the same emotional level will be there as it was on your wedding day. And, you don't want to follow up a great performance with a crappy one. It'll leave a bad taste in your mouth.I'm not saying you shouldn't do dancing at your AHR or have one speech to thank your guests for showing up, because I think those are great ideas, but I think you need to make sure they're different than what you do at the wedding. If I was going to an AHR, I would be surprised to have to sit through the father-daughter dance, etc, etc. So, maybe just keep it to one dance and then invite everyone else to dance as well?

jujubee96

I'm of somewhat of an opposing opinion from Alyson... I think you should do the things you want, have the AHR the exact way that you and your FI want it.  Think about each element and think about how you will feel doing it again, in this new situation.  Do you feel good about it/ like the idea of it?  Then go ahead!  If some of the elements don't seem like a good idea to do again, scrap those, you know?We had a little bit of a "cake cutting" at our welcome BBQ; we didn't know but my cute little SIL made us a 2 tier-cake.  So we did that and I loved it.Also think if father, people making speeches, etc., are willing and/or comfortable doing it again.  I don't think the speeches should be word for word the same, that would seem a little too rehearsed, but whatever ppl seem comfortable with, you know?  I mean, ppl are still happy for you that you got married even though it's a couple of weeks later.

ringobubblegirl

Hi Alex.  I think you should do whatever feels comfortable for you.  We had an AHR and we didn't repeat too many things, but I have a coworker who had a DW and she repeated everything at her AHR.What I did again:  We had another "first dance" and his cousin sang again while we danced...just like she did in Hawaii.  I replayed the MOH & BM speeches from Hawaii with the unedited footage that I got from our videographer.  What was new:  We had a slideshow with photos from the Maui wedding.  We had a "newlywed game" where we sat back to back and answered questions.  So we skipped the bouquet/ garter toss since we didn't have flowers.  We were supposed to do a cake cutting again, but ran out of time.  If you have a small enough reception at Seawatch, you can also skip those traditional things and do them at the AHR instead...or you can have other close family members do the speeches.  HTH!