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Dress dilemma!

Ok- I know I don’t post that much but I need to vent to you girls.  I went dress shopping for the first time this last Saturday to 2 different bridal shops.  I found 2 dresses that I really like, one from each place.  I went back last night to try one of them on, so my friend could see, and also because they were having a sale, thinking that if I loved it enough, I would buy it.  I liked the dress as much as I remembered from Saturday and my friend liked it too, but she suggested I wait a bit and not be too hasty in my purchase, and I agreed.  One is $150 more and when I told my fiancé this, he told me to go with the cheaper one.  He was upset when I came home and told him I hadn’t bought a dress- he thinks I should just pick one already, even though I only started trying dresses on 3 days ago.  It’s annoying that he’s upset with me because I didn’t buy a dress yet, but I don’t want to buy one if I’m not absolutely sure, and right now, I still like both of the dresses.    When you girls found your dress, did you have that ‘This is the one!’ moment at all?  I haven’t really gotten that feeling, so I’m not sure if I should look around at other places some more, or just pick one of the two that I like and buy it.  Sorry for the rant!

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    mauidandymauidandy member
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    edited December 2011
    I never had that "this is the dress!" moment....but I tried on probably a hundred dresses before I bought mine and I'm really glad I did. Now I know whats out there, and what looked good on me and what didn't. I don't have any regrets because I got it out of my system! You only get to shop for your wedding dress once, so take all the time you want! Don't let anyone pressure you into buying it until you're ready and you're sure. It's hard to wait when you find a dress you love and it's on sale though, I can relate- I bought mine because I found it on the sale rack and I was worried someone else would buy it if I didn't.
    andrea and ryan . june 2010 . maui.olowalu
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    edited December 2011
    its worth getting the dress you love especially if its just $150 more. guys wont have the same attachment to a wedding gown so you might just have to pardon his suggestion and communicate the difference between guys and girls' opinions on important things on a wedding day.
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    jrossbjrossb member
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    edited December 2011
    Personally I did have that this is the dress moment. I went in to the bridal stores and told them my bugdet and what I was looking for and didn't look at the prices until I found the dress. I think that you should go with your gut on if you should keep loooking or not! Guys are always like that, even when you are shopping normally they just want you to pick something and move on. I think that you should wait until you know which one you want.
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    edited December 2011
    I totally didn't have that "the one" moment. Personally, I don't believe in one person for everyone - how could I believe in just one dress? =P
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    edited December 2011
    I had that this is the dress moment, but it was with a dress that was way over my budget. I had to suck it up and let it go.I did love my dress when I tried it on, I don't know if I got that magical moment. It was a wow my figure looks pretty cool in this one, I'll take it.Buying your wedding dress is something you shouldn't feel rushed to do. Shame on your FI for giving you crap.He will understand when he sees you with that dress on. =)
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    laabethlaabeth member
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    edited December 2011
    I never had that "this is the one" feeling.  I think whats important is that you are totally comfortable in your decision.  It doesn't really matter if it takes you 3 days or 3 months to find it, as long as you love it and you feel beautiful in it. :)
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    maui2011maui2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    Don't let him pressure you to get 'a' dress...take your time to find 'the' dress however it happens.  Even if you don't get this is the one feeling get the dress that you like the best...based on style, designer, price...whatever works for you.  J. :-)
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't have the "this is the one" moment. I went to four bridal shops and narrowed it down to four dresses. I tried them on a couple of times and took time to think about how I felt about each of them. It's too big of a decision to make rushed. There's nothing wrong with picking one of the two dresses you like, but it might make you feel better to shop around a bit first. I ended up getting my dress from the first shop I went to, but if I hadn't shopped around I would have wondered if there was something better out there.
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    LilSwtAzynLilSwtAzyn member
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    edited December 2011
    I bought one dress that was really really cheap and good enough and made me happy.. but eventually i was sad that this "wasnt' the one"... eventually i had that moment with my millybridal dress.. but its because its my dream dress i thought in my head and it was made just for me! millybridal.com is definitely another option for you to design your perfect dress on a budget
    Planning BIO! / Halekulani / Aug 29 2009
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks girls!  That helped a lot.  I'm definitely less stressed about the whole situation now.
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