Destination Wedding

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Anyone traveling to Hawaii to have a small 2 person wedding with your fh?

We originally planned to have the big wedding in our home town but then decided to go away just the two of us to save stress and money

breaness

Yep! We sure are. It's not just the two of us, it's us and our parents but I figured that was close enough

If we had our way it'd be just the two of us but the mom's weren't having it!

Tanq&Tonic

Lots of people choose to do this, including a number of Knotties on this board.  Read some of the past few pages of posts and you'll find a few 2 people weddings and people thinking about it.  We had 40, but still chose Hawaii for very similar reasons as you...style, stress, obligation, etc.  I have to say we definitely did not save money doing it this way, but we didn't set out with that intention either.

FSForever

We will have 20-22 and originally started with a big wedding at home. We know there will be some stress in the planning and the cost is probably more but overall we are very happy with our decision to change to a more itimate wedding. 

TheGolem

Honestly, I love the idea of just eloping with no other guests, but like what a couple of the ladies here said, my parents would really be upset if they weren't there (I am one of 2 kids in which my brother will probably always be a bachelor lol).

If we were to have a wedding in Socal, we would honestly feel obligated to invite a lot more people probably ending up with a party of around 50.

If we do a destination wedding in Hawaii inviting say 50 (I am just being conservative here with numbers), I would be happy if 30 came.

The joke is, by just looking at estimates doing a destination wedding for 30 isn't that much cheaper than a wedding in Southern California for 50. The incentive though with the location in Kona we probably will end up using if we do a destination wedding is that we would get included a 5 night honeymoon oceanfront suite with breakfast each day (would cost around . Also a huge plus is the Royal Kona Hotel (love this hotel so much and wouldn't stay anywhere else in Kona) has a wedding center and is more or less an all inclusive venue with an included coordinator. The ambiance of us having our wedding in Hawaii would just be perfect for us and exactly what we want .

motoLyn

I'm all about eloping and there were times that I honestly planned to... but I think that FMIL would kill my FI.  I think that my parents would seriously get over it if I eloped.  My older sister had the big wedding and I think that is enough to satisfy my mom.  My dad be happy just not having to deal with all the hoopla, he honest to goodness offered me 3k not to have the wedding in Maui.  I know that if I had a wedding in in southern California that the guestlist would be bordering on 200-225.  I wouldn't be able to escape the Vietnamese side of my family and exclude anyone from the wedding and his Danish side already doubles my side.  But I really don't want to get married without at least my family there and some seriously close friends.  I think our guest list is 50 max, but I'm sure about 35-40 will show up.

Do what feels right to you.  No stress no worries.  If the two of you getting married in Hawaii sounds like heaven go for it!  Its not a rare occasion.  I've seen beautiful pics of just two people getting married in Hawaii.  Good luck and keep us posted on your decision.

TheGolem

I agree Moto. If my brother had a big wedding, I would be off the hook.

memegrace

I am so on board with what you had to say moto! 

dixx1982

Yes we are doing the Hawaii wedding with just the two of us.  We will have a reception a month later.

We are both happy with our decision.