I keep thinking about something that happened to me on Saturday at the dress shop and want to get your opinion about it. See if I should do anything about it or not.
I went to a smaller independently owned dress shop and had a really good experience until the very end. The woman who helped me was fabulous and made me feel really comfortable. She got what I wanted right away and was the one who found the dress I ended up buying. The size I tried on was a little snug in the hips and a little big in the chest. It still felt amazing though.
I've been working-out really hard to get back in to my pre-relationship shape and to just be healthy, again. I gained that being in a relationship and being in-love weight. When I started thinking that my 35 birthday was coming up I knew it was time to get serious with my health and to stop yo-yoing. I cleaned up my eating in January which meant cutting down the sugar and alcohol and making sure I had correct portions. Then I joined a gym at the beginning of Feb and started working with a trainer at the beginning of March. I know work with my trianer, do the treadmill, elliptical and stairmaster, take yoga, pilates, and water aerobics and I swim. I also do a little work out in my office a couple days a week of sit-ups, push-ups, squats, lounges, jumping jacks and 100s. I've lost 20 lbs so far and have gained muscle.
Because I am literally working my ass off, I didn't want to go up a size on the dress so that it wasn't snug in my hips. I knew the hardest alteration on the dress was going to be talking in the top and I didn't want a dress that was going to be even bigger in that area. Especially since I gain and lose in my chest. Was a DD when I started working out and now I'm a D. I know I will get down to at least a C.
The other place I also hold weight is my hips. Yes, I have an hourglass figure. I've already gone down a whole size in my hips since working out. I know I will lose more there. Especially since I do have 14 months until my wedding.
I talked all of this over with the sales associate who helped me and she agreed I should not go up a size and should order the size I tried on. It wasn't like I wanted to order the size below that.
When I got up to the counter there was a "customer service rep" who answered phone calls, put orders into the computer and took payments. She looked at me and then looked at my order and told me there was no way I was going to fit into that dress and I needed to go up a size. I was so taken back, I couldn't believe it. The dress was so close to fitting me. Everything hooked and laced up. The dress was completely on me. She didn't even see me in the dress. I told her no, I wanted to order the size I tired on. She again told me that I needed to order a larger size and would need to lose 45 lbs for the dress to fit me. I was taken back by that, too. My best friend jumped in and said to order me the size I wanted. I then told her I was working out and would have no problem fitting in the dress. We had to go through this two more times, before she finally ended up putting the order in for the size I wanted, but wrote in the notes that she told me to order a bigger size and I would need to lose 45 lbs to fit into the dress. This all printed up on my receipt.
I talked to my mom about it and she said I ordered correctly. I was so pissed at what that woman said to me that I went to the gym the next day and did almost 1300 calories in cardio. There is no way I won't fit into that dress.
I talked to my trainer about it yesterday, too. I think it pissed her off as much as it pissed me off. I showed her the pictures of me in the dress and she thought the woman was crazy for telling me I needed to lose 45 lbs. She also said she would make sure I fit into that dress and had plenty of time to do it. She thought by next month I would fit into the dress if I keep doing everything I am doing.
Anyway, I keep thinking about the stupid woman who said those things to me. It was so rude! I can understand making sure to double check that the right size is being ordered, but to keep telling someone to order a bigger size and to lose weight is not ok. The thought even crossed my mind to leave without ordering the dress because she was pissing me off so much. If I hadn't had such an awesome sales woman help me, I would have left.
I was thinking about writing some on-line reviews saying the experience was great until the working with the woman at the counter. Actually, I am going to at least do that. But, should I do more? Should I contact the manager or shop owner, too? Should I do anything else?