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So lost and confused

ok... So we ditched all the traditional wedding plans and we are now leaving everyone behind and going to Hawaii alone!!! We do want to have a luau ( cause we got hitched in Hawaii) of some sort when we get back for friends and family.

Do I still have to do all the same planning??

Can I still wear the dress of my dreams on the beach with just the 2 of us?

Any help would be great!!!

Re: So lost and confused

  • edited December 2011
    Of course!  You do what you want to do! It's your wedding!  Make yourself happy!
  • AKWinterBrideAKWinterBride member
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    edited December 2011
    Of course you can!!  There are no rules about weddings, some people will try to act like there is, but there truly aren't!  You can make your day whatever you want it to be, especially when it comes to your dress! 

    You will not regret this choice, I can promise you that!  Congrats!! 
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  • breanessbreaness member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_hawaii_lost-confused?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:73Discussion:1c5d6292-b800-4d71-b96e-3d09ac045ac9Post:7d79bb98-5c57-4511-8caa-54c06a60fd94">Re: So lost and confused</a>:
    [QUOTE]Of course you can!!  There are no rules about weddings, some people will try to act like there is, but there truly aren't!  You can make your day whatever you want it to be, especially when it comes to your dress!  You will not regret this choice, I can promise you that!  Congrats!! 
    Posted by AKWinterBride[/QUOTE]
    ALL of this! Seriously, the luau at home sounds awesome, and definitely wear the dress of your dreams! Just because you're getting married on a beach doesn't mean that you need a 'beach' wedding dress!<div>
    </div><div>Also, stay off the Ettiquette board. They eat us girls alive for doing what we want.</div>
  • edited December 2011
    Ditto AKWB...so wise!
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  • edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies!! I feel so much better!! Btw... Did your fi see your dress or are you keeping it a surprise?
  • edited December 2011
    It was a surprise until first look that day :)
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  • sld0618sld0618 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm keeping it a surprise.  Get whatever kind of dress you want!  It will be amazing no matter what.

    As for the planning, it's all about the ceremony and a place to stay.  Super easy! 
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddings.com/Sites/Weddings/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_hawaii_lost-confused?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:73Discussion:1c5d6292-b800-4d71-b96e-3d09ac045ac9Post:a3ab438d-b428-41fb-aa0f-f0919f4dc9e5">Re: So lost and confused</a>:
    [QUOTE]It was a surprise until first look that day :)
    Posted by Tanq&Tonic[/QUOTE]

    This is our plan too, ive had my dress hiding in its garmet bag all these months!
  • edited December 2011
    How do I keep it a surprise if we are the only 2 going?? I need help getting into it! Lol
  • fabutanfabutan member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome to the board!!  I think almost everyone on here has chosen Hawaii or a destination wedding because of the advantage of having a small and intimate event.  

    We initially wanted to elope as well, but we thought our parents and siblings would feel happier, if they took part (also their first time to meet!).  That then opened up to some close friends, which amounted to 25 people in total.  FI was aiming for 15 people at most, but in the end, I felt the party size was just right for us...

    Elopements in Hawaii are quite "usual" - most coordination companies even offer elopement and "dinner for two" packages.  It's so romantic!!  It's about the love that you two share - which is what a wedding should be about!

    Yes, you can still wear the dress of your dreams!!  You can do whatever you want to - afterall, it's YOUR day!!  



  • fabutanfabutan member
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    edited December 2011
    BTW -- we threw almost every wedding tradition out the window!  

    FI and I actually selected my dress together (it was a sweet process - a mutual decision).  The dress hung in our closet the entire time.  We even wore our outfits together to decide which tie he should get!  That way, we could check whether everything "matched".

    Our "first look" before the ceremony still had a big impact on him.  It was the first time to see everything "together" (i.e. veil, make up, hair, shoes, hair piece, jewelry) and it was quite "dramatic".  Since he had a role in the dress selection process, he definitely loved the dress (i.e. ticked all his boxes!) and I never worried about whether he would like it.  Everyone has their own preferences, but it just felt like "us".  ;)


  • breanessbreaness member
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    edited December 2011
    I showed FI a picture of my dress after I bought it (me in it!) to make sure he approved :P I feel like it's important to have his approval on big purchases (even though it was my money) so I made sure he liked it. He does :)
  • TheGolemTheGolem member
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    edited December 2011
    Last summer I went to a luau with friends and there was a couple alone who just eloped during their vacation and spent their honeymoon at the luau. I thought it was actually very romantic :)
  • edited December 2011
    Out with tradition!  :)  Lots of great thoughts already shared, but I have to agree...do it your way, your style.  We were really traditional on some things (DH didn't see the dress until first look), and not on others...we spent the night before together, had breakfast in bed that morning before going off to our preps, wrote our own vows, no garter / bouquet, didn't invite any family besides parents & siblings...

    Do what works for you guys and try to let go of any guilt or obligation to do the other stuff.  It will be worth it in the end, promise.  No one can ever take away the magic of making your wedding EXACTLY what you want it to be.

    And, you can always ask your coordinator, photographer, hair dresser / makeup artist, or even housekeeping staff to help you get in your dress.  Most hotels would give you a suite with a separate room and door to get dressed in so DH wouldn't see you in the dress until you wanted.
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