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maui2011

Re: BMs

My BMs paid for their own dresses except for one...i paid...long story. However, as part of their gifts i purchased them all crystal earrings...no need for a necklace do to the style of their dress.  Also i am purchasing cheap shoes for all of them at payless just to wear for the ceremony and photos to lessen their costs.  The dress cost a lot more than i expected...they picked it out...and since they all picked the same dress although i was hoping they would pick different dresses in the same colour and material i thought their shoes should match. I cannot afford to do their hair and make-up tho. I will also be getting them solemates and they will be transported to and from our venue via limo so they do not need to drive. HTH!

Oh what happened with the bridal suite? J. :-)

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Hi!

Thanks for sharing! I wouldn't worry about the dresses bc the girls chose it themselves. 

I guess costs are always in the back of my mind - I just don't want my bms to feel like I'm making them do a bunch of things they don't want to. I feel a little guilty they are paying for a super expensive trip to Hawaii and a bachelorette party they threw for me this weekend. I purchased the bridesmaid dresses ($30 at a banana republic outlet after christmas sale) and necklace and earrings ($16 at nordstrom rack). And I told them they can wear any light gold shoes they already have. I can't pay for the hair and makeup but I've told them that's optional too. 

None of them have complained or anything and when I thank them they say they're happy to do it. I just want to make sure they have a great time and don't have to stress about the costs too much. I really want to treat them to some kind of outting in Hawaii but I don't know if I can afford it.

We took the bite and are paying for the getting ready/bridal suite. We decided we really needed to do it because of the stress and hassle of moving during the day plus there is a festival that will close the main street in waikiki the day of the wedding which could reek havoc in the timeline. To offset the cost, we're going to do our rehearsal dinner way more low-key and cater the food for the wedding party in the suite. It'll be really tight but it'll have to do.

maui2011

As a thank you to our wedding party we will be taking them out to a club Friday night..we'll be renting a sofa...so they can sort of get the VIP treatment...not cheap $50 min. per person in alcohol.  You can do something similar to this...either a lesser minimum or just buy their drinks.

I wouldn't stress to much about their costs...it looks like you have helped them out a bunch...i am positive that they appreciate everything you have done/do for them. Just a few weeks to go! J. :-)