RE: Invitation Etiquette for Friends Not Invited

stuffedmahimahi

We decided to send out invitations in waves, the first wave being 20 invitations sent.

So far, we have 11 (counting my fiance and I) attending.  I am hoping that we have no more than 12.

In the meantime, my fiance would like to notify the other guests on the list who were not sent invitations that we are getting married without offending them.

All I can think of is sending announcements after we are married about one year from now.

Any ideas on how to include our friends without inviting them to Maui?

Thank You!

Tanq&Tonic

Are you hosting a local reception or anything after you get home?  Many of us on this board do that as a way to include the friends & family who could not join us in Hawaii. 

What's your FI's goal out of notifying the other guests, and how well do they know you?  Is it just FYI?  Do they already know you are engaged?  I guess those answers affect how I would do it.  For guests you aren't as close to, I would mention in your holiday cards this year (eg - 2011 was exciting as we celebrated our marriage and the start of our life together).  For those you are closer to you, they should already know in your direct conversations with them, right? 

I would also advise not to send invitations in waves -- it sounds like you already have enough acceptances from wave 1, but it's generally not well received by guests for you to do so and it gets even more confusing if & when any of the Wave 2 guests get an invite but others don't...

kaesha

I totally agree with everything Tanq said. There's no need to send something out. That basically reads as "Hey, we're getting married but you're not invited", which, you know, probably isn't going to go down so well. If you're not throwing an AHR, then just leave it be.

stuffedmahimahi

Thank you, ladies.

We definitely ditched the idea of sending out wave 2 and 3!  The response we rec'd from family and best friends is more than enough.

I love the idea of sending out a holiday greeting with photo when the time comes for those we could not afford to invite.

Thanks for your help!