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Confession...

I need to get this off my chest. I was married once before. Age 21, stupid and in love with a Marine. It was a courthouse event, just us and I wore a $10 clearance dress from Ross. Young and dumb!! The positive: I learned who I really was and what I really wanted out of a relationship.

Over a short period, I grew up and my ex decided he didn't want to. He also decided that since he had gotten out of the service he didn't need anyone to tell him what to do. You can see how that would go at like.... lets say a JOB!!!... Needless to say he went back to Mommy who bought him a brand new BMW.

At that point I met a real man and we have taken things slow and enjoyed every moment. Thank God I did not have any kids with the ex!

Anywho, thanks to you for all the advice & ideas. Although I was married before, this is my first "wedding" and I'm so enjoying the ups and downs with you all.

Have a great evening Kiss
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Re: Confession...

  • edited December 2011
    Glad you could share that with us.  If I had married the person I was dating at 21, I'd be divorced as well.  Apologies if this comes off the wrong way, but I assume your FI knows about the prior marriage, yes?

    I'm really glad that you've found happiness in a mature relationship with your FI, and it's bonus points that you know to truly treasure and appreciate it!  We're glad to have you here planning with us -- true love should certainly be celebrated, regardless if it's a first marriage or not.
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  • tiggy85tiggy85 member
    Sixth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011

    Yes my FI knows everything...I am so happy these days!!

    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    image139 Were invited to paradise!
    image 39 Are ready to party!
    image 100 Are stuck on the mainland!
    image 0 Need to check their mail!
  • maui2011maui2011 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Welcome! The ladies on this board are great and so not judgmental...FWIW my FI was married at 21 as well so no worries. J. :-)
  • breanessbreaness member
    Fifth Anniversary 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_hawaii_confession-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:73Discussion:7d77c86d-25f8-41c8-be22-e2db8e1162a2Post:24b9e18b-8650-4121-8735-076b5f315e18">Re: Confession...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Glad you could share that with us.  If I had married the person I was dating at 21, I'd be divorced as well.  Apologies if this comes off the wrong way, but I assume your FI knows about the prior marriage, yes? I'm really glad that you've found happiness in a mature relationship with your FI, and it's bonus points that you know to truly treasure and appreciate it!  We're glad to have you here planning with us -- <strong>true love should certainly be celebrated, regardless if it's a first marriage or not.</strong>
    Posted by Tanq&Tonic[/QUOTE]
    Couldn't agree with this more! :)
  • FSForeverFSForever member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I was also married at 21 and although it ended badly, with children, I am much happier and I wouldn't have changed getting married at 21.  It was a part of my life and I have three wonderful children.  I also grew a lot as a person.  
    I think you will find that these days most people do not judge you for being married before.  I know both FI and I were very surpised how supportive everone has been this time around and how they really wanted us to have a wedding.  Its amazing how different it can be when you find your true soulmate and you know who you are. 
    Good luck and keep posting. No one is judging. 
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