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Invitations - question

fabutanfabutan member
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Hi girls,

We sent out our save-the-date cards about 6 months before the wedding and quite a few people on the guest list have already said they can't make it to Hawaii.  Quick question - is it necessary to follow up with sending a formal invitation to people who have already rsvp'ed "no"?

I was originally planning to, but since there are some folks who have zero possibility of coming, I kinda thought about saving the postage and paper.  :)  Is this bad etiquette?  Thks!

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  • maui2011maui2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am in the same position as you but I will be sending everyone a formal invite that i sent a STD too although i know some people have already said they will not be coming. A waste of money i know but i don't want some people feeling left out just because they have already communicated their decision and you never know some may change their minds. HTH! J. :-)
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  • Tanq&TonicTanq&Tonic
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, etiquette wise, you should still send the invitation to anyone that received a STD (lol, I still chuckle when I read that).  After all, what if things change and they can now join you?  It would be nice if you included a short line - I know it is unlikely you will be able to make it, but if circumstances change, we would still love to have you join us.

    That way, they know you acknowledge that they cannot make it.
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  • sld0618sld0618 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes you should. I was upset when my friend did this to me and didn't send me an invite after saying I wasn't going.  I found it really rude that she didn't want to waste some paper on me.
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  • kimmykupcakeskimmykupcakes member
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    edited December 2011
    I say send them! It's a nice keepsake even though they couldn't be there.  Plus, who knows, maybe something will change and they will be able to join you!
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  • AKWinterBrideAKWinterBride member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, you should still send them.  I had the same question as my cousin was a flat out 'no' that they couldn't come and my Aunt said my cousin would have been really, really mad had she not gotten a real invitation too!  So, we ended up sending everyone invitations, even if they were a solid 'no'. 
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  • fabutanfabutan member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies!  I knew I could count on you!!  :)  I'm now planning to send out formal invitations to all the folks who received STDs.  I guess some guests might take it the wrong way, if some people received one and they didn't.  Was probably being a bit too frugal about paper and postage, teehee...  Thanks!!

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  • sld0618sld0618 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think everyone thinks about it!!!  I would love to cut out and save some money :)
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