Hi girls,
So, wedding planning is in full swing and I'm starting to feel more excited each day! Things are slowly coming together, except for one major hiccup...
The story is, my sister and I have a history of ups and downs (we're inherently VERY different people). Well, I asked her to be my bridesmaid last year (which was a surprise, because I wasn't hers) and she agreed. But last summer, we had a major bust-up and didn't talk for a while...naturally, bridesmaid situation was up in the air. However, we reconnected and made-up at Christmas. Everything was fine again. I thought the nice thing to do was to reinvite her to be my bridesmaid again (afterall, the dress was already bought before), I thought she would feel bad if I didn't re-ask her again.
Well, this time, she flat-out refused to, citing that she wanted to "protect" our relationship and it would be in our best interests if she wasn't. I agreed at the time, but I've found myself feeling very angry with her, because all the plans were already in place and I feel "abandoned". Since then, I've been trying to convey my feelings about the issue (numerous e-mails) and convince her to reconsider, because I think it would be a great opportunity for us to get closer and to make up for past wrongs.
Now, she says "I will leave the decision of whether I am a bridesmaid or not up to you." Not in a very considerate sort of way either. What should I do? This has probably been the most distressing issue to do with wedding planning so far. It's such a bummer....