"No" Rsvps the flipside

Nancy00714

So I mentioned being happy about getting my first no. 

Today I learned about 2 'NOs', my good friend and her husband.  She told me she has to have some surgery on June 11th (nothing too serious).  Makes me sad...she is probably one of my favorite people that I can talk to for hours.  She said she's still coming for bachelorette and bridal shower.

Have any of you gotten any disappointing RSVPs yet?

lvissers

Just 1 from my good friend from college whose baby is due the week after my wedding and the lives in Iowa, so her and her husband won't be able to make it.

Other than that, we have 53 yes and 3 no. We are waiting on 100 more.  I am really starting to worry and stress about too many people coming and killing the budget for my parents. This late in the game we can't change budget for things that have already been decided and I'm definitely not taking out open bar or reducing my flowers at this point.

Melissa.hylton

The possibility of my grandparents not going to make it really upsets me. They live in CA and live only 2hrs away. I grew up with them always playing a big role in my life. As we grandkids grew older they are never around. They havent even made the effort for my children their great grandchildren. They travel a lot for my grandpas bowling league. It upsets me that they cant miss a competition or arrange to come back early for my wedding. They RSVP'd Yes but it could turn into a NO. Also since my sister is due a week after my wedding and is expecting their first child they possibly wont be here for that either. 

bridetobe71412

I've definitely received a few disappointing "No"s but I have to think that not EVERYONE can be available at my beck and call The saddest one is one of my close friends from law school - she was there when I met my fiance - but she's going to be out of the country for work during the wedding. Sad.

And lvissers, I totally agree. I'm not cutting stuff just because more people come! At least it looks like a lot of people are skipping out on the morning-after brunch (at least so far) so that's at least good since we were worried it would become wedding number 2.

BeachLover2885

FI was disappointed when 2 of his relatives couldn't make it from Florida. They are his mom's cousins so I think he was hoping they would come (his mom passed away).  We also had two of our friends RSVP yes, but today I found out they're not going to be able to come b/c the husband has to work. It was a bit disappointing just b/c I thought they were going to come and now they're not! I'm just really glad they were able to tell us this far ahead

singing_lyn

I've received a bunch of dissappointing no's. Basically every one that I was friends with while I lived in FL for 6 years can't come including some family members that live there. And I just found out a lot of family up here scheduled vacations for the week of my wedding even though I sent out STD's in October so that people would know. Oh well, the more no's the less the wedding will cost and the more likely we can go on a honeymoon.

mekiakoo

No, not yet. We've had 6 no's so far (we need 30 more no's, yikes!). So far it has been FI's family friend who we don't really know and one of my co-workers. No big deal.

I know 2 of my friends will not be able to make it and I'm a bit bummed, but at least I'm expecting it before getting the RSVP!

arunkumar

Just one so far. FI's mentor and now the head of the photography department where FI teaches in his spare time cannot make it with his wife. FI was really bummed. They accidentally scheduled a vacation during our wedding that they cannot change. I think they were really sad that they can't come too and spoke about having us over to their house earlier in the month to celebrate. I hope everyone else can make it.

Amanda1443994

We've had two very disappointing no's so far. The first, was my best friend. He's literally always been there for me and he was going to come to our wedding and do a reading in it. He had another wedding this summer in June that he was a groomsman in. In January, he found out that the June wedding got moved to July 28th, my wedding date. He literally cried when he told me and we were so upset for months.

The second no is from my FI best friend and groomsman. This guy knew about our wedding since we got engaged in March 2011.  He's not a very responsible person and apparently didn't save any money during that time. He lives in SC and now can't afford to come to our wedding.  He's always been flaky (used to do drugs, been arrested numerous times, just got fired from his job) but my FI grew up with him and they're best friends. If my FI didn't have a brother, this guy would've been best man. FI is pretty hurt about this and I feel soo bad for him.

michelle11988

No we have had 5 no's so far, 3 were plus ones that we gave (yay!) and one was a set of FI's cousins who told us in their Christmas card they doubted they can come because they are having/just had kid number 2.  We need a lot more, I hope a lot of people don't end up bringing guests but we are fine anyways if everyone else shows!

littlemoments324

we have 0 no's so far!  However, I've heard through the grapevine that we'll most likely have 4 no's.

meggles114

I just got my first RSVP's back in the mail today!!!  We just mailed our invites out on Saturday!

So far 1 no, which was pretty much expected-- it's one of FI's mom's friends that she insisted we invite for god knows what reason.

Rebis58

We've had 9 "No's" and 60 "Yes's" (people responded quickly!!)

Of the No's there were three children (two sets of parents leaving kids at home), two boyfriends of my close friends (girls are coming alone), and four people we knew couldn't come for various reasons and with whom we are not very close. Overall, I would have loved to have them there but I'm not upset by any of the people who won't be coming. Hopefully that doesn't change!!

ajmom2two

We have only had one real no and its someone that I dont really care about.  I think Eric's mom will be the most upset, its her brother and his wife.    The other no was my mom and step dad but I have known since I got engaged that they wouldnt be able to come bc she cant travel.

MeaganR12

We'll have quite a few disappointing no's but we both have family and friends all over the country so it's expected.

Nancy00714

It's funny people I didn't expect to come (the people in honduras, mexico, italy, etc.) are coming

And my friend who lives 20 mins away isn't.  I told her her health is more important of course and we'll def see each other. 

Sorry for those of you who have had a few disappointingg RSVPs.  I'm sure we'll still be surrounded by LOTS of people we love!

LADY324

Nope not yet we are praying for no's.  At the rate we are going right now only 2% have said no lol.  We are hoping to have about 20 no's b/c then we have all of our HM spending cash.  Otherwise we are opening up the envelopes and taking some of the $ to aruba with us lol. 

KatieK501

I haven't had any disapointting no's yet (well, not even many rsvp's yet b/c I just sent the invitations).  Our wedding guest list sort of got out of control...we were aiming for about 150 people attending, and we've now invited 309 (including children)!  So I had actually been hoping for quite a few no's from some of the out of towners.  But last night as I was looking at Thank You notes at Target, I started panicking a little - what if most of my side says no.  We're on a tight budget, but if 309 people come to party, we'll make it work!