Moving the wedding date...Thoughts?

Ms.BriarRose

Brian and I have been talking alot lately about moving the wedding date up, possibly to May or June.  The only reason we set the wedding so far away was because of the surgery- getting approval, setting it up, having it, the very long recoup time, the PT I would need, and then hopefully the weight loss- all before the wedding.  Now that it's been denied by the court, and could take a full year for the appeal to go through, we see no reason to wait the over a year until the date we have now- it's been 9 months since we got engaged, and while we were willing to wait because of the surgery and all, not having anything standing in our way now is making us question whether we should move it or not.We can't have it any other time but May or June- the church we are getting married in does not have air conditioning, so we can't do it in the summer without our guests suffering.  Brian wants to do whatever I want to do- he knows how much I have suffered, first with losing the house, and now with losing the surgery, and he just wants me to be happy. I have mentioned this to my MatronOH/older sister, and she thinks we should, because she understands why we were waiting.  I also mentioned it in passing to my mom- who was like "OMG WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?!?!".  She thinks we won't be able to get our vendors for the date we want- we really don't have a date per say that we want, just has to be in May or June.Does anyone have any thoughts on this topic?  Good or bad?  And please, try to keep it nice- this has been a hard enough topic for me to deal with, and while constructive criticism is welcome, harsh words are not needed right now.  I am really struggling with this.  Please, any help you can offer, any advice...we need it right now, as we really don't know what to do.

Tonysgurl020406

Honestly Brit - I think its a great idea...  IF you guys can financially swing it, and IF the vendors already booked are willing/able to accomodate.  Have you sent STD's? It really sucks your getting so much bad news lately...  This would be a huge positive to have...  Would the important people (immediate family, bridal party etc) be able to still make it?  Check with them before making a final choice...

Ms.BriarRose

That's what Brian and I thought, Steph.  Something positive to do/look forward to.  Not that it isn't already, it's just so far away right now...I haven't talked about it with anyone else, and of course it would be contingent on everyone being free and vendors being available.  I haven't sent STD's yet, so I am in the clear there.  I wanted to ask the board first to get some feelings on it, good and bad, before I went ahead and really started asking vendors about changing dates.

lmicolucci

I think this is great idea!  First thing I would do is make sure your reception hall is available in those months, since i'm sure you already booked it and made a deposit. 

Ms.BriarRose

Do you think I would have to worry about them not applying the deposit if I wanted to move the date up?  I think that is one of my mom's concerns- that the vendors won't or can't apply the deposits (though I don't know why it would be a problem).

Tonysgurl020406

I think that will totally depend on the vendor.  June is one of the most busy wedding months, and May isnt too far behind it so they might be booked already....  How many vendors are you talking about?  I know your venue, church, florist, and photographer are booked - anyone else?  I cant imagine Barb giving you a hard time unless it were close to Mothers Day (busy florist day)...  The church, venue, and photographer will depend on your contrct and if they are busy already...  Talk to them all, and find out all the details before making a final choice.

MrsJax09

Personally I would keep it as is, but that is just me. If you move it up, you may find an increase in vendor prices IF they are even available. In addition, while waiting sucks - and I think Donna and I can attest to that the best - it is so helpful to have that extra time to pay things down slowly. Right now you have another year (rounding of course) but if you cut it to May or June you have only 7-8 months, and many vendors will require the full payment before the wedding day (some even 30 days before). So in addition to needing to get all the funds in you know you are going to take an economic hit with the holidays coming up. I mean it is up to you two, but if it were me, I would stay.

Tonysgurl020406

To play devils advocate, I also had almost a 2 1/2 year engagement, and it was a LONG 2 1/2 years...  If theres no financial reprocusions (sp?) I still say do it. Yes, itll be a bit rushed but the difference between may and oct is only 5 months so as long as your vendors are able and you do not loose deposits, Im still sticking with go for it!

Sparrow515

I think that if your vendors are game (i.e. they will honor your deposits and are free on the date you move it to) I think you totally should.  While October is a beautiful month to get married in (LOVE the colors you can use/cool weather) I see no reason not to move it up.  Also, how many other vendors do you need to book?  Since May and June are such popular months, just make sure the people you still need are available.  Granted, couples plan weddings in way less time   If that's what you and FI want, I say go for it.

happywithhim715

I was just reading this post and while I do not know the entire back story (house and surgery) I think you must remember that your wedding day is YOUR DAY.... The wedding day should make you happy. If finanically you can do the new date, I say DO IT! All of my vendors or those I have spoke with so far said if I had to change the date within a reasonable amount of time, they would honor the deposit. Most importantly double check the new date with the church and venue for the reception. But with what sounds like a rough year, I believe you should do what makes you happy and if getting married sooner than planned will make you happy, I think you deserve it.

kasey12

I agree with the majority here, if the vendors will honor your wishes without any outrageous additional costs, and it still gives you enough time to save- then GO FOR IT! You deserve it, it is your day! I'm sure that Brad will honor your request as long as nobody else has booked that day for a wedding!