rants, rants and more rants

JayElleJayCee

So I just want to to vent. Everyone knows I'm pregnant - well let me just say...

It is the most annoying thing in the world to have a million different people (not really a million) telling me what i'm having. "Oh you are definately having a girl!" "Oh no! She's having a boy". "Oh you are puking up everything you eat? Oh then you are having a girl becuase I did that with my daughter"  ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh,,,,,,

And the sad part is - I have said something like that to every single pregnant person I have known! If they were all like me then I had absolutely no idea they were all secretly slapping me in the face! I mean I didn't mind the first, second or even third time.. but after that you just want to start screaming! It's just so annoying - look this is myyyyyyy little something! You are not a psychic and you do not have x-ray vision so I wish everyone would just stop it!!!

oh and on wedding related rants...
Apparently bow tying is not my forte - my invitations came unassembled - I was in tears last night trying to perfect my bows. I eventually gave up... You know what let me just get into another rant while i'm at it....

So last night one of my BM's who is my FI's sister in law helped me with my invitations. She volunteered last week to help with writing out the addresses since she knows calligraphy. So last night I went over - and she complained the whole time! Saying "oh you owe me big time". Granted we were supposed to have one other person helping us who couldn't make it - i still don't think I "owe" her anything except for my sincere gratitude! I mean wtf? really? she kept saying I should buy her wine for helping her. Isn't that what a bridesmaid is supposed to do? Help me with the wedding? It's not like I demanded her help! She offered! Me being me I would've probably done something nice for her but now I don't want to since she thinks I owe it to her! Ugh.. I was so annoyed! It makes me scared to ask for her help at all after this!

anddddddddd to top it of - the FI is in Virginia for work for the next 20 days and I have no clue what he's even going to wear!!! He can't go naked!


all of this between my million trips to the bathroom since hugging the toilet all day is my new hobby! I'm exhausted. Thanksk for listening ladies! I know this was alot! lol.

wicked_faery

damn...hope everything gets better for u...that's a lot to handle all at once >_O

Mattsbride10

Congrats on the pregnancy! My mom did that... because she got very sick with all three of my brothers....she swore I was having a boy because I got really sick and while it was annoying to hear her say it all the time she was right(I'm still not convinced I won't get just as sick with a girl). Truth is every pregnancy is different...your next one could be a walk in the park and it doesn't matter what the sex is. I heard all sorts of stuff from so many different moms... just let it roll off your back.

Oh and If this whiney girl you speak of is going to be your FSIL and shes going to complain like that then maybe you just need to tell her to Shut up.

Good luck with everything!

PS- I do know exactly what your going through...I hated pregnancy! Hopefully yours gets better because mine never did.

JayElleJayCee

hmmm..... well the main board says there are 3 total posts but I only see the one from MattsBride

and man I wish I could just tell her to shut up! I should've said something. It was just really rude ya know? If you didn't want to do it then you shouldve just said so!
and I am trying to let everything roll off my back... I know people mean well - I always meant well when I said those things its just hard sometimes!

I always thought i'd be one of those mothers who loved being pregnant! I am sooo sooo happy to be having a child - but pregnancy SUCKS! haha. What's even more annoying is the women who say "Oh I didn't have any morning sickness when I was pregnant" - that just makes me want to cry! lol.

Mattsbride10

I hear that...my SIL and I were prego together and she had absolutely no symptoms. She didn't even get a stretch mark! I suffered the whole nine months. Have you been reading..."What to expect when your expecting"?  I swear as I was reading about every new symptom that comes with every new month I either had it already or I developed it that day.

JayElleJayCee

NO i'm too scared to read the books! lol. I hear books have lots of horror stories. I do however go on babycenter sometimes. I just like the week to week thing. If I think of something I just google it. I don't want to know what could happen - I would be waiting for something to happen to me! 

Ms.BriarRose

Take a deep breath.  It will be okay!

Tell them off when they tell you you are having this or that.  My mom carried my sister and I completely differently (I was all butt and the sides, Meg was all out front), and was sick with one and not the other...I am pretty sure we are both girls, LOL.

As for your FSIL.  Take it from someone who knows- my suggestion (and the suggestion of most wifes and brides) have your FI say something first.  If that doesn't take care of it, then say something yourself.  I know it's not ideal, and I know right now your hormones are going nuts, but trust me, it will make things in the years to come easier.  But if you do blow on her, just blame the hormones

As for the books, I also recommend What To Expect.  It doesn't have the horror stories.  And yes, I have already read it   Can you tell I have the fever?!

JayElleJayCee

HAHAHA. I've had the fever for 2 years! However we wanted to get married first and all of that jazz and it was too soon for us. I was so excited to start having babies next year but I am even more thrilled that it just happened! lol. I can't wait to be a mom - being pregnant sucks but i guess it's part of life lol. My co-worker said I am her birth control because I run to the bathroom 10 mins after I eat or drink anything! lol.

I think once the wedding is over I will settle down and start to read pregnancy books. I'm actually really looking forward to that time. Right now everything is wedding wedding wedding and all I want to do is sleep! haha.

paprika28

Your pregnancy week by week is sooo much better than What to expect. Seriously. What to expect scared the hell out of me. Week by week made it all seem reasonable. Oh, and 'my boys can swim' is a great book for your FI.

I was sick for the first three months when i was preggers. I mean, pulling over on the side of the highway to puke sick. I could barely work. I couldn't eat. It was bad. To this day, I still can't eat a meatball sub or a hot roast beef sandwich from wawa. I carried very oddly; DD was very far back. As a matter of fact, she shifted some of my organs, and they still haven't moved back to where they're supposed to be. As much as I hated being pregnant while I was, I so miss it now. I mean, 7 months of 'fat days'? No one looking at you funny for wearing sweats to the grocery store? Or if you want that icecream sundae after dinner? I have baby fever so badly right now, but I have over a year to wait. FI wants to start trying the month before the wedding. We'll see.

Tell BM to stfu. For serious. You're preggers, getting married insanely soon, and you needed help. If she volunteered, you don't owe her anything. For serious? C'mon. (not you, her)

 

JayElleJayCee

hahaha. Thanks Paprika!I don't know that I'll actually get him to sit down and read anything about babies! lol  I actually thought of you last night - I had to pull over into a parking lot to puke! lol. That sounds bad - I thought of you because of your rt 1 story!  I was like damnit - she told me to bring a bucket! lol.

My only wish is that it stops before my wedding day - or atleast decides to not hit me on my wedding day! Everyone at work is great though. They just keep making jokes. They say my baby is down there with a little lever sending everything back up because he/she is picky as hell! hahaha. They help man the phones and radio for me while i'm on my frequent bathroom trips.

and as for FSIL - I am supposed to go with her to our friends baby shower Sunday.. if she brings is up I am going to tell her to CTFO! My patience is running out I think.

paprika28

Don't forget to blame the hormones. it's one of the best things about being preggers. No one questions it.