So one of my BM and I are at an impass in our friendship. Ww've been friends our whole lives, but go through frequent periods of not seeing/speaking to each other at all. She is very...self-absorbed I guess you could say. She was a later addition to my bridal party, after a year-long stint of us not speaking, she suddenly reappeared in my life and was all gung-ho about our friendship. If you asked me now why I asked her to be in the wedding, I probably couldn't tell you.
Last week I emailed her and told her that I was frsutrated with her disappearing act again. When she's around, she's a GREAT friend. When she's off chasing her latest obsession, she is the worst. At this point I don't know if it's worth salvaging our friendship. FI doesn't think that she is someone who will continue to be in our life long-term. Do I want a friend like that? More importantly, do I want this person to be IN our wedding? She emailed me back and basically told me that if her friendship wasn't what I wanted/needed that was my choice. So basically I think she's forcing me to make the decision to conitnue our friendship or not. I don't know what to do. I want us to stay friends, but at this point I'm not sure if I want her to be in our wedding. I'm not thinking about un-asking her, I'm trying to decide if our friendship is worth salvaging. Maybe the time has come for us to go our separate ways, because let's face it, not all friendships are forever. The thought of us not being friends anymore def makes me sad, but at the same time, she doesn't really bring anything to my life, so it's not like I'd really be missing out. Agh I don't know what to do! Should I keep her friendship and keep her in the wedding? Will I regret not having her in the wedding one day? Or do I just let her go and focus on all the other great friends who do enrich my life in so many ways??