Looking at Venues this weekend!!!!

Bonnie&Clyde77

So this Saturday I'm going to look at Glen Foerd Mansion and Cescaphe Ballroom and Curtis Center! SO excited!!  

On another note, has anyone been to the Indian River Lifesaving Station for a wedding or having their wedding there? A friend of mine said they had a semi private beach..I go to the beach all the time and I can't for the life of me, think of where it is! 

chemistry2000

The Indian River Beach is near Fenwick Island.  Look at  http://www.destateparks.com/events/life-saving-station/index.asp for information and a nice video on it.  It looks like a beautiful place but it was a bit pricey for my budget.

Ms.BriarRose

From family and friends having looked at it, not only is it pricey, but they are picky as well when it comes to what you can and can't have on the beach for the ceremony.  Make sure to check out the cost of chairs, are there any other charges, etc.

Bonnie&Clyde77

Definitely will do! I have grandparents in wheelchairs and walkers so maybe it wont be the best place....

Ms.BriarRose

Oh, yeah, something definitely to think about and check on.

Actually, as a fellow bride and someone who is disabled, I really want to commend you on thinking of others who may not be as mobile as most.  I know it's for your grandparents and you would do it anyway, but from someone else who has experienced weddings where the bride and family didn't think about those things, let me say thank you on behalf of those who aren't as mobile, because it really does mean alot.

Bonnie&Clyde77

aww thank you MBR! I know a wedding is about Me and FH getting married starting our lives together blahblah, but I honestly want my guests to feel like it was their own wedding and to make everyone comfortable. I think that is why we are having such as hard time figuring a place out that can accommodate everyone. I looked at Glen Foerd today and totally fell in love with the grounds and not only that but they have an Art gallery! A lot of our guests are into that stuff and I think it would be nice for them to have something to do/look at during cocktail hour. Anyway I know we still have to find a few more places to look at for variety but I'm rootin for the mansion  

Ms.BriarRose

You are very welcome

Actually, that is misconception that this is all for the bride and groom is one that I really have issues with, and one of the reasons I take issues with the wedding industry and wedding websites because they are the ones who have spread that idea.

I was always taught that while the ceremony is about you and celebrating the marriage, the day and reception are ultimately about your guests.  If it were about you, and that's all that matters, then you should go off and get married alone or with immediate and close people.  But brides don't, they invite many more people than just the immediate family.  It's not about you at that point, it's about giving your guests an experience, thinking of them, making sure they have a good time celebrating with you.

I hatehatehate with a passion girls who say "this day is all about me, and screw what everyone else says", and then does things like only has vegan food, or makes the guests wait until they do something first before the guests can do it, or only plays music that the bride listens too and doesn't think about her guests in any way.  Ultimately, you are providing this day and celebrating with them, and you need to think about them.  Obviously there are things that you can make call on (if you don't want line dances, even if guests request, that's okay), but making meat eaters eat vegan because you are in my mind is plain rude- provide vegan for those who want it, and meat for those who want it.  I am not vegetarian/vegan, but i am providing that option at my wedding.

It's one of the reasons I cannot stand my club board with a passion (on top of many, including girls- the mod, mainly- flaunting the amount they were spending on their wedding, and asking many times over how much should I insure my ring for it cost this much and other acts that were blatantly hurtful to other brides who can't afford all that, including myself).  When I called her on it, well, let's just say mod because mad- liike crazy, not anger.  She still is nuts over it, and I finally quit because she and several other selfish brides have issues, and couldn't deal with being told that their idea wasn't the best.  I can't stand selfish brides, at all.

Annnnnd sorry for that rant.  It all boils down to thanking you for being a considerate bride who knows ultimately that your guests count.

Bonnie&Clyde77

I totally agree with you though. I have been told so many times that the wedding is about me and its my day screw whoever doesn't like my ideas or agree with me from so many people! My fiancé has even said that a few times when we were doing a guest list! But I feel that while it is a day for the fiancé and me, ultimately we are having a wedding for our families and friends to celebrate with us! Every time we have gone to a venue or looked at food options, I think about our guests. He is Jewish, so it being kosher plays into it, but my family, being Catholic, wants a say to. I also have a mom who doesn't eat meat (she doesn't say shes a vegetarian but who knows) so having a variety of food that everyone can enjoy, whether it's our favorite or not, matters. I went to a wedding in June that was at a well known venue in Bridgeville. There was a guy there that was allergic to seafood and they served him fish! well when he explained that to the waiter, she told him, you got whatever the bride picked for you since you didn't fill out your RSVP! and then they refused to give him food even after he talked to the bride. She told him to get over it! I have a huge pet peeve about bridesmaids dresses too! I was in a wedding in August were we had to wear these dark red/black dresses. While it was pretty, it was way too hot and then we all had to wear the same shoes that looked awful on everyone bc they didn't fit our body types at all. I am having my dresses from twobirdsbridesmaid.com and while they are the same color, each girl can wrap them how she wants, plus they fit different body types well. I'm even getting one for my rehearsal dinner and honeymoon! 

Whenever I start to feel bitchy about something or annoyed, I think about the show Bridezillas and def have a change of attitude. I would never want anyone to be treated like how those girls treat ppl!