I swear my mom is trying to sabotage the wedding!! We got engaged in June, and ever since then it's been so incredibly difficult to get any money out of my mom (after she told me she and my dad would cover the cost of the wedding). It's been like pulling teeth to get deposits paid before things have become unavailable. Now, the bridal shop is telling me I need to order my dress sooner rather than later (the dress SHE told me was perfect), and she tells me that she can't pay for it now. Now, I completely understand that money isn't the easiest thing to come by these days, but COME ON! Through the entire wedding planning process it's been "oh, don't worry, we can afford a nice caterer", and then "well we can't give you that money now" after I've negotiated everything with the caterer. Or "you need to cut costs wherever you can" but "you really need to have the best invitations". I'm pulling my hair out and screaming! I'm so incredibly sick and tired of trying to deal with my mother going back and forth on everything, and it's so stressful to be trying to plan things and then not be able to get the money for it.
Now, FI wants to basically tell my parents that they're welcome at the wedding, but that we're done dealing with them. I really don't want to do that because I do love my parents a lot, and I've always been really close to them, but it's SO frustrating trying to logic with the woman! The worst part is that we've never gotten a solid number of how much money they can afford to give us, which just makes it harder to try to figure out what we can get. I'm cutting corners everywhere I can, trying to reduce the cost, and we've had to ask FI's parents for help too. It just sucks so much!