Bridal shower dilemma

racket_rose

My step mother wants to throw my a bridal shower and asked for me to give her a list of people I want to be there. My family has had trouble getting along in the past and I really dont want to make people feel uncomfortable. I thought about have two separate showers ve the(one for my father/step mother's side and one for my mother's side) but I still ha problem of people in my father's side not talking to each other for a few years. Do I have them invited any ways?
 

isufans4ever

I would invite them.  They may decide to put things aside for a day...or they may not come.  Either way it would be better to invite them and let them decide if they want to come or not then to not invite them and have hurt feelings.
I am in the same situation right now

farmgirl8806

I would invite everybody you want.  If they can't act mature and be there for you, then that's their problem; not yours.  If people want to be there for you, they will set aside their problems and show up.  If they want to be immature, they'll do what my aunt, uncle, and their kids did for my sister's wedding when they were mad at my other aunt (didn't show up at all and sent money).  Not you or anybody else should have to do anything extra just to accomodate them.  If they are mature and care and respect you, they will show up and maintain peace between themselves and others.  If they show up and start causing trouble, you are very well in your rights to ask them to leave.  Same thing goes for the wedding.  You probably aren't going to have two separate weddings just because they can't get along, so it is my opinion that you shouldn't have two separate bridal showers.  Sorry if this message comes off a little nasty.  It's just that I have dealt with this with my own family and have had to give the same advice to a friend of mine when she was planning her wedding.  Good luck to you!