Major dress regret already!

mlharrison23

I just bought my dress this weekend and I must be CRAZY!!! Because at the store, Shaffers I looooved it and thought it was the one-third time trying it on.....and since I was buying it I took a picture....than I got home and looked at the picture! Bad idea!!! Now, I realize I do not like it at all I don't think, well it is ok but I don't know if it is what I really want but it's too late now....I am so bummed and annoyed with myself for being so indecisive. I would post a pic but I can't even figure out how to put a pic on here. It is anais collezioni an111. It looks less poofy at bottom on me than pic of model but still...why did I do this? I drive myself crazy!

ks107021

I second guessed myself right after I got my dress as well, seconded guessed the color, just plain second guessed everything.  I drove myself crazy!  But, then I remember that was the dress I loved that day.  I just had to stop second guessing myself.  Hopefully you can get back to point where you love your dress...why you loved it this weekend! 

MaggieandJake

I felt the same way after I bought my dress.  even to the point that I started looking at other dresses and thinking about how I could sell my dress to recoup the losses.  I kept thinking why did I buy so fast, is this really THE ONE?  Well after my dress fitting last week, I fell in love with all over again and realized why I bought it in the first place. (I didn't want to take it off!!)  One thing that really made me second guess it was that it wasn't what I envisioned myself wearing when I first imagined my wedding dress-well all of those dresses didn't flatter me at all or give me the wow factor I was looking for, but my mind kept going back to those when I saw them in pictures and windows.  

I would give it a little bit of time and maybe you'll get that feeling again of when you picked it in the first place and fall in love with it all over again just like I did.

Congrats on your purchase!

deregniern

agree with pp's... was wondering for about two months what I was thinking.  It wasn't until the 3rd time I went to try on the dress that I really started to get excited about it.  I hate making a decision and I had a really hard time deciding between two dresses so that didn't help either.  Give it some time and you may find that is grows on you like mine did with me.

EllenG27

Ok, so apparently this is pretty common! I really do like my dress that I already bought as well... however, I didn't cry or feel like 'wow, this is it!' It's just what I really envisioned wearing and I liked it. I just felt later on the day I bought it that I was bummed I didn't feel more attachment to my dress. I mean, there are shoes or clothes I have that I love more than I love my dress. I'm definitely keeping it because I don't want to have to go through that all again. It is what I envisioned for myself for my wedding day.... so I'm sure I'll love it again. Enough about me....
mlharrison23 - Is there anything you can do to the dress itself that will make you love it again? I just looked it up online and it's really pretty!! With that kind of fit, was it just the angle of your picture that made you not love yourself in it? I certainly don't know, but for mine, I need to lose just like 5ish pounds for mine to fit better on me and wear some Spanx. So maybe the picture of you in it was just not the best picture. My only suggestion is to figure out if there's something you can do to the dress to make you love it agian. Good luck!

ToBeMrs2011

I had the same exact reaction...I asked myself why on earth did I buy so quickly!  Just FYI, I bought it on my first trip to try on dresses AND it was the 3rd dress I tried on.  But I tried in on twice while there and cried both times I did so...not something I would usually do.   

Then the dress came in and I tried it on with my MOH there, she took a ton of pictures....and I remembered how I loved how that particular dress made me feel.  

I look at pictures and certain things about myself I pick apart...like the fact that I REALLY need to work on toning my arms.  hehehe 

When I have a moment where I think, maybe I shouldn't have bought so quickly...I take a moment to remember how I felt when I was in that dress...what a relief it is that I don't have to worry about finding another one...and remember to trust my first instincts.  :-)  

mlharrison23

WOW!!! Thanks everyone!! I am feeling better already just by reading your comments and knowing that I am not as crazy/insane as I thought just because this has happened to others and you guys all seem to have decided that you do like your dress so I am hoping it will grow on me also. I am not the type to make fast decisions so I was surprised that I didn't give it a little more time when buying the dress. I am so used to buying something and then immediately taking it back because I decide against it and I knew I wouldn't be able to take a dress back and yet it didn't really hit me until after I bought it.
MaggieandJake-You are soo right! I think alot of it is that it is not at all what I envisioned myself in and I catch myself dreaming about the dresses I imagined being in-but I did try one type on-tight fitting all the way throughout and lacey and it didn't really look the best on me. Maybe after my fitting I will fall in love?
EllenG27-I am thinking maybe I could make it a sweetheart and take out a layer of tulle on the poofy bottom part....thanks for helping me think of this!!! And you are right, I have clothes that I do love more than the dress...I am not sure it's a love relationship with it even but ya I don't want to spend anymore money on a new one either.
I am going back on Sunday to try the dress with my stepmom who hasn't seen it and maybe I can feel better after seeing it again and take better pics maybe??? Ahhh I hope so. Thanks again everyone!!! You're the best!!!

EllenG27

Good luck with the second go-around!!!

kitc101

Ellen- I feel the EXACT same way as you!
It didn't help that my mom second guesses my decisions all the time, anyway. So I think I just blocked my emotions entirely when I had my dress appointments. Well, it's 'just one day' anyway, right? ;-)
mlharrison- You are definitely not alone in your feelings! Three of my girlfriends are getting married this year and each of them has felt the same way you do! I feel like the oddball lol... It will all work out and it will be your perfect day, no matter what your dress  looks like :-)