OH CRAP--Shower Host gifts

ktsun17

ARE YOU SUPPOSE TO GET THE HOST OF YOUR SHOWER A GIFT???? I was just on the OCT 09 board and they were talking about this.My MOH just threw me a shower yesterday and I did not give her a gift.I have another shower this Saturday and another in Septemberwhat should I do???

ms.ashleyjean

Of course I don't think you have to get someone a gift but it's a nice gesture in thanks for all that they did! Maybe send her/them flowers today to their work in 'thanks' for the shower. Or drop a note in the mail with a gift card of some sort. HTH

eventsbyemily

Emily Post and my mother would say yes, you should give the host(s) of your shower a gift. If you've ever thrown a shower for someone you know how much work goes into cleaning, shopping, cooking, and then cleaning again, not to mention the expense of the whole thing. I love to throw showers for my friends and I certainly don't expect anything in return, but it's a very nice gesture and tells your host how much you appreciate what they have done for you.I'm giving all of my shower hosts a bottle of wine that my parents, fiance, and I brewed at Vine Park Brewery back in April. We're making our own labels with our names and wedding date on it. That along with a snowflake bottle stopper (since our wedding is in January), possibly some chocolate and cocktail napkins.

sjs0018

IMO yes, you should get them a gift. I have thrown showers for people and it is a lot of work although I do not expect a gift it is nice. When I though a shower for my cousin as a gift she had people do the clean up after the shower, that was a great gift. I got my shower hosts a reusable bag with fun food items from Trader Joe's. They all loved it and it did not cost that much.

gala0068

I got them giftcards to places I knew they really enjoyed (Caribou, Panera, etc) and then a big box of Frango chocolates.  It was simple and didn't cost a lot.  I think they enjoyed it.

huwehotaling

Yes you should get the host(s) a gift.  One of my BMs and her mom threw my shower so I got them each gift cards to their favorite stores.  Flowers are always a nice idea too.

ktsun17

OK then--is it going to be rude to give her the gift post shower like the shower was Sunday and I give her the gift Thursday--I've already seen her after the shower as well--I'm not too unltra concerned because I did throw her shower a couple years back and I did not get an immediate gift after the shower but she gave me a nice visa gift card after the whole wedding thing was over.  But should I be bringing the gift(s) to the shower so I am prepared for the shower my FI's aunts are throwing this weekend.Geez how rude am I?  I think sometimes it depends on your social network too--I would have NEVER thought of this if I hasn't read someone's post, guess I've never seen someone do it...

jrflannigan

I don't think it's that bad to send it after (like today). In the future, I agree that you should bring it the day of. I had a lot of fun giving the host gifts to the hosts just a few moments before the shower. They were surprised and appreciative.

eventsbyemily

It's never too late to say thank you. Even a small gift card to Caribou or Starbucks in a special thank you note that she gets in the mail from you would be a great gesture.Definitely bring the host gifts with you to the shower. Arrive 10-15 minutes before the guests and present them with the gift. This also assures that you'll be there on time and before anyone else arrives.