Fiance's family - less than thrilled :/

cdevine

So we announced to his family on Sunday during breakfast that we were engaged. His dad knew and was fine with it.. but not a single congratulations from his sister or his mother, she's upset we're not getting married in a Catholic church. I'm not Catholic and Jon doesn't consider himself Catholic...his dad stood up for him and said it's really not that important now a days for the kids to get married in a church.

She doesn't like the idea of us getting married May the Fourth because it's silly (May the Fourth be with you).

I feel bad, i mean it's about us not anyone else.. but i know his feelings were hurt.

any advice?

saacjw

Give them a bit of time. My parents love my fiance, but my mom was really freaked at first, like her reaction was "are you sure?" Maybe they were surprised and wish they had known in advance? 

It sounds like if your fiance's dad is fine, they will probably warm up. They'll probably adjust to it not being in the Catholic church eventually too. I'd down play the sillyness of May the Fourth (which btw, made me smile) because other people will probably enjoy it. My fiance and I have been adding silly little geeky things into our stuff and just not explaining it to my mother because she'd be very freaked (our Archer save the dates? she thinks that it's just some cool design I made...). In a couple of weeks see how they're reacting again. They really might just warm up. 

MrsBoss2012

It sounds like this is just the beginning of your engagement so I  will tell you right now, you will disappoint ALOT people while planning your wedding. My mother says to me almost weekly "I just don't understand how young people weddings work now a days." She hates almost every decision I've made. Not getting married in the church (umm excuse me but God is everywhere), I'm getting married on a Sunday, it's not a Saturday in June, my colors are "weird", oh yeah the list goes on. What you have to do is develop a thick skin and be prepared to let everyone know this is what you and FI want and that is what matters.

Good luck dear!

tess6373

Oh I got a lot of the "youre stealing our son away" vibe at the beginning.  It just takes some time for people to get used to the huge change thats about to happen.