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Update and new issue....

My MOA was way up for it! She said she has just been overwhelmed and a bit down (she had said she was going to throw me a stagette 5 months ago but had not done anything yet and its 6 weeks to the wedding!) Anyway we are going to start the planning this week! :o) New major issue? I have two friends that have simply not grown up. They are heavily into drugs, are still getting into fights at bars and I have decided that for the sake of drama I do NOT want them there. The last time they were invited out with some of my other friends they were doing drugs in the bathroom and starting/picking fights like children. So, I do not want to hurt them, but I want the wedding to go well and not worry about thier juvenile behavior. They will be very upset; but I am just so different then them. Its like they froze as wild girls and cannot snap out of it. I just feel a lot of guilt and really dont want to hurt them, at the same time we have nothing in common anymore (friends from Highschool) we are 30-33 now! I am thinking that I will need to tell them that we are having a small wedding and that its mainly family. Which, it pretty much is...we are having a VERY small wedding.

Re: Update and new issue....

  • LittleSweetieLittleSweetie member
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    edited December 2011
    I think the bigger question is do you still want to be friends with these two lovely ladies? If not, then don't invite them. If you do, you'll have to consider what not inviting them would do to your friendship.
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  • NuggetBrainNuggetBrain member
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    edited December 2011
    Don't invite them. I don't think I'd even want to be friends with them anymore. They're engaging in illegal and potentionally dangerous behavior, and bar fighting is something that you should have grown out of by 22, if you were ever into it in the first place. You should just be straight up, and tell them that you have moved in different directions, you're not comfortable with their choices and don't want to be put in a situation that could turn sour, and you think it best if you stop hanging out.
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  • edited December 2011
    Thanks for the replies....we are not close anymore anyway. I am going to just not invite them and if that ruins it --well not too much is lost anyway. I just never thought we would grow this far apart. We were like sisters for many years. Anyway, I guess I know what I have to do.
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