20 days and overwhelmed....

ssminy79

I took the weekend off from thinking about wedding stuff-well I THOUGHT about it, but didn't do anything wedding relate, and it felt great!!  Now I am just overwhelmed with the little things that need to get done.  And really, my list is NOT big at all, but it's getting down to the wire. I am thankful that I do have the summer off, as I am a teacher, but I am also trying to write my graduate thesis-which has been frustrating as well.

At any rate, any advice as to how to keep it all together?!  I can't wait for the day to come together.  I am very thankful that I hired a DOC because I know she is going to take care of things for me.  What is also crazy now is that final payments are starting to be due and that is a lot of money to front!! 

Most of my girlfriends are out of town or have brand new babies, so I can't really call on them to vent and we aren't having a WP-just our parents, so my Mom has been a great support system.  I knew planning a wedding would be stressful, but I don't think I knew I would feel like this!!

Thanks for letting me vent!

Izzygrim

That's gotta be a relief that your list isn't too long. I'm just at 40 days, but I feel like I should be MORE stressed out than I am. After all of the stuff we've gotten done already, I am (I'm sure naively) thinking the rest is cake! Though I'm a little TOO relaxed because even though there isn't much left, I'm just not DOING any of it, lol.
What kind of stuff do you have left to do?

MN_Jen

I was really stressed the couple weeks leading up to my wedding, too.  The thing that really helped me was repeating to myself "If it is important it will get done, and if it doesn't get done then it isn't important."

debbieupper

Phew, I don't know where I'm going to be when I'm where you are (I'm about 2 months out from that point) ... but hang in there - everything will come together beautifully!

Amen for DOCs! She'll make sure everything falls into place perfectly.

ssminy79

Things I need to do...finish payments for everything, order the booze, finish buying frames for pics of our grandparents/parents, gifts for parents and musicians, marriage license, oh yeah-finish writing our ceremony   Again, not a ton of stuff, but I kinda wish I could click my heels and it would all get done on it's own!

kristigiles

yeah I'm super overwhelmed too...   Thats a good mantra, if its important it will get done, if it doesn't then its not important.  I'm going to be repeating that to myself for the next few weeks!

wittyschaffy

I got to the same point - if it doesn't get done, it wasn't that important and I can't change it anyway! 

I'd suggest making a list and tackle one or two things a night.  It makes it seem less daunting!!  If there is anything your FI can do, let him take some of the burden.  We had to have a "craft night" about a week before the wedding to get my card box finished, some table numbers assembled, and something else I'm not recalling now.  I called in the troops and even had my Dad doing some stuff.  Everyone was super about it and understood that I just needed a little help to get the final stuff done. 

Qston

I'm 24 days out, and have a similar mantra, but with a bigger to-do list, no DOC, and a full time job! eek! But, FI and I both have our to-do lists fairly well broken down, and seem to be churning through the pieces, and slowly but surely getting things crossed off.. I just keep saying, somehow or another, things will get done. And lean on those you can for support... maybe the friends with babies can't come help you put together something, but they can probably listen if you just need to call and vent, which is sometimes SO helpful!

Good Luck!

dcprep

Yeah, we're at 39 days, and I'm getting stressed.

We still have quite a bit of last-minute stuff to do, AND we live 1,500 miles away from MN. So it's kind of a pain to get everything done ahead of time, to allow for things to be shipped to MN if need be.