Awkward address etiquette question

debbieupper

We're getting ready to send out our save-the-dates, and I just came across a bit of an addressing dilemma. We're inviting the parents of one of my bridesmaids. Unfortunately, her mom just moved out (in December). They know I'm aware of the situation, so I'm not sure now whether I should find out where her mom is now staying and send a separate save-the-date there, or if I should just send it to both of them at their house (where her dad is still living).

They aren't divorced or even separated yet, and I'm not sure if they're in the process of that. I'll bring it up to my friend and see what she suggests, but I thought I'd post here in case there's some blatant form of etiquette I'm not aware of in a situation like this.

Thank you!

cltk12

My mom and dad did not live together for 2 years.  They were not divorced; nor separated.  I would suggest talking to your friend and ask her where to send.  I would think she'll give you her mom's address of where she is now - that's what I would have done.

Bimbi284

Ditto PP. Ask your friend for sure, and send her ma a separate STD.

polichik

I think it would probably be safest to send separate save-the-dates to the mom at her new place of residence as well as the dad.

I'd definitley check with your friend, though, especially to see if the mom is still going by her husband's last name (assuming she changed it when they got married). I'd definitely address her as Ms. Ann Jones, not Mrs. Jones or Miss Jones.

debbieupper

Wow, thanks! You guys brought up stuff I didn't think of at all (e.g. Ms. v Mrs.).

kclepire

On our STD's we didn't put mr and mrs...we just addressed them casually John and Jane Doe.  For invites we'll do Mr and Mrs though...