How do I include...

juliels53

a relatively new close friend in the wedding. I met her last summer before we FI proposed and have become very close over the past few 8-9 months. Not close enough to add to the WP (though I talk to her way more lately then the BMs), but close enough we're thinking of getting boudoir pics taken together (for moral support!).  I already have 2 personal attendants too. Help! Any ideas? 

juliels53

Oh and I also bounce wedding ideas off her all the time. Her wedding was 3 years ago and has great advice. We both sit at our computers all day emailing misc ideas or questions. (don't tell our boss!)

LolaBelle515

How about "gift table hostess" (they're in charge of getting alll the gifts back to you, too) or "guest book attendant"?   

It sounds like you're looking for a way to include this good friend so that she can be with you more throughout the day and you can share it with her---these are smaller roles, but would mean you could easily invite her to the rehersal and rehersal dinner so that you got to include her more:)

It's a wonderful 'problem' to have...too many friends:)

blondie424

Could you add her as an usherette or reader?

ef7310

I vote for usher or reader. Another idea would be to have her be a hostess. It's like an usher, but without actually seating the guests. She'd be available before the ceremony to greet guests as they arrive and answer any questions they have (where are the bathrooms, where to put coats, stuff like that). At our site, the parking lot is in the back, and guests will need to walk around the building to get to the ceremony location, so we're going to have a couple aunts directing people and showing them where to go. 

 FI and I were in charge of gifts at his cousin's wedding last summer. It wasn't awful, but I definitely didn't consider it a position of honor or anything like that, and we didn't spend any extra time with the bride as result. In fact, we actually missed some of the reception because we were busy lugging gifts to the MOB's car. It's an important job, but it sounds like you want to include this friend and have her more involved in the day. Having her read a passage would be a much better way to include her, IMO, and save the present patrol for a responsible cousin or aunt. 

Woah, sorry that got so long...

annieb627

I like the usherette/reader ideas.  If you already have enough of those, I have a few more ideas.  If she's really good with details, you could ask her to serve as your day of coordinator - that way she can have an important role in the wedding but you won't have to change around your bridal party.  I've been to weddings before where they've had greeters as well as ushers - it sounds like it would be too many people talking to your guests before they are seated but it has always turned out really well. 

kkaew816

Please don't make her be the guest book attendant. Worst job ever!!!!! I would definitely say reader or usher, with a reader over usher. Otherwise, who cares, just have 2 PAs!