Awkward Family Q

AllyG303

Who are you worried about with seating at your wedding?  

penny12986

For me, it's not so much about seating the family because they mostly get along with each other but I worry about greeting some of my relatives when we go from table to table.  One of my cousins always finds the most embarrassing things to talk about like her childbirth and another aunt is always bringing up her medical conditions or a death in the family.  I just don't want to be cornered by them.

BrightFirefly

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[QUOTE]Who are you worried about with seating at your wedding?  
Posted by AllyG303[/QUOTE]

My aunt Kathy is freakin' nuts - and I have NO idea where to sit her and my uncle Steve. She talks talks talks talks talks talks and WILL NOT shut up. God forbid you answer the phone when she's calling - be prepared to be on the phone for 2 hours listening to her monologue (It's not even a conversation - it's a monologue). She talks about the most inappropriate things. She kidnapped FI to talk about all her troubles having kids (in very uh..vivid detail)....the first time she met him....

Whoever I sit her with is going to be stuck listening to her for the entire reception - and she eats SO SLOW so she'll probably still be sitting there with her plate of food an hour after everyone else.

I will not be sitting her with my parents....and I planned to have my grandmother with my parents..I don't know where to put her..honestly..-_- I've been thinking about it for months.

mekiakoo

Nothing really- both families are "normal" haha, but I am a bit worried about greeting the tables like Penny- since we are deaf, it could be a bit awkward if a hearing person comes up and starts talking to me and I'd be frantically looking around for an interpreter to help me out! So may have an interpreter kind of walking around with us. Eh...

Nati05

Our parents and their exes and new spouses. Good lord! FI wants to sit all of them in one nice table haha. Sounds like an awkard situation to me. Or a fighting match. But he says they're all friendly once they get together so it's still an option. My idea was to sit all of them with us, since I think my parents would be a little hurt to not be seated with "their little girl on her wedding day".  I think everyone will behave once they sit with us. But we're undecided.

Oh and I have one strange cousin, FI can't stand her actually. She's very awkward and says random uncomfortable things to random people trying to strike up a conversation. Haha! FI doesn't want her anywhere near his family lol.

ceglare4

FI's family. His dad is on his third marriage and there will be family members from each marriage at the wedding. FI's mom HATES his dad for legit reasons. She wouldn't cause a scene or anything, but figuring out where to seat certain people might be a challenge.

BmoreBride311

I'm not really worried about seating. There are some weird family members for sure, but I think there'll be enough tables to spread them out and only sit them with their own families that it shouldn't be a problem. But keeping certain ppl a safe distance from one another is one of the reasons we're not doing a head table.

mzad22

My FIs side of the family is from a pretty small town, and they all think seating plans are weird (and I get the impression that they don't really like them).  My family on the other hand has probably never been to a wedding without them.  I like them because when I am at a wedding where I don't know many people I always hate trying to find a place to sit if there is no seating plan.  So mostly I am worried that his family will judge me for having one...lol.  I haven't started worrying about the specific combinations of people though.  I figure I'll cross that bridge when I find out who's coming.

mekaikoo- Do you have a family member or friend (maybe even someone in the wedding party) who is hearing and knows ASL?  Maybe it wouldn't feel so strange if they were walking around with you instead of a random interpreter.

butterflyjumper1

i think the seating issues will be pretty easy to solve; we will just keep the awkward people together

BeachLover2885

My aunt and uncle who basically removed themselves from the family and treated my late grandmother horribly.  They will have to sit with my other aunts and uncles, but I hope that's not going to be a problem. It will just be so awkward.  My parents insisted I invite them b/c they are family and my aunt invited them to her daughter's (my cousin's) wedding.  It's also weird b/c I'm not inviting any of their kids (my first cousins) b/c my aunt didn't invite us to my cousin's wedding, but all of my other first cousins are invited.  I'm hoping they don't even come, but they do always show up for events. 

bells24412

My FI's family. There are some people in his family that I wish we didn't really have to invite just because it is all about drama with them.

k8888

My mom seems to think we're going to have a hard time with this... but both of our families are really easy-going, so I'm not worried about it.

It's MY friends I am worried about... some of them are kind of weird and don't get along well with others.  At the same time, I don't really care, they're getting all the food and booze they can ask for hahaha

dramaqueen91087

My FI's step-fathers family. They are um, interesting, people. They are very loud and will say just about anything. The grandmother aksed if I was pregnant yet the last time we saw them. I am terrified of mixing them with my family, especially since they are black and some of my family is racist (which is on my family but still).

MeaganR12

I'm worried about my RECENTLY divorced parents bringing dates. My mom is still with the guy she cheated on my dad with and my dog had a condom in her poop after spending time at my dad's house. So anything can happen. Ugh.

ceglare4

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[QUOTE]I'm worried about my RECENTLY divorced parents bringing dates. My mom is still with the guy she cheated on my dad with and my dog had a condom in her poop after spending time at my dad's house. So anything can happen. Ugh.
Posted by MeaganR12[/QUOTE]

Gah, Meagan this story still makes me cringe!

BeabullMom

I'm worried about a lot of things.  My parents are divorced and don't speak.  My mom is remarried and my dad and step-father hate each other.  Awkward issue number 1 and 2. 

Since the divorce, my mom's brother chose to talk with my dad (his best friend) instead of my mother; because of this he also doesn't talk to my sweet 80 year old grandmother (he didn't even go to my grandfather's funeral...we were all appauled).  My dad of course insists he be there because he is the closest person to him family wise (even thought he isn't really his family).  He hasn't talked to my mom or gram in over 10 years.  AWKWARD x10!!!!!!!

Also, my dad doesn't speak with his step-mother, who I have grown apart from since growing up after my dad's father died, but still think of her as my other grandmother (since I never knew my dad's real mom).  So she will be there too.  My dad is annoyed about that one.

Lots of people will be at my wedding that don't talk to one another, and can't stand one another...my job is to sit them as far away as possible!!!!!!!!

tleighmoulton

I actually have a aunt thats not attending the wedding because shes worried about this... so I guess she solved this problem for me

singing_lyn

I'm worrried about FI's family some of his siblings aren't speaking to each other so we're going to seat them on opposite sides of the reception. Also my family is wicked straight-laced and one of his sisters smokes pot like they're cigarettes. I already told him if she starts smoking up he's going to have to ask her to leave. Also his nephew is an alchoholic and I'm a bit worried about that too with the bar at the reception.